FAQ

Find answers to some of the more frequently asked questions on the Forums.

Forums guidelines

Our guidelines keep the Forums a safe place for people to share and learn information.

Living in the shed, no apology from her so im moving on

benji777
Community Member

2 weeks ago she (42f) hurt me (42m) emotionally and it caused huge arguments. i shared the night before that ive been feeling unwanted and alone for months due to her newly smoking habit, her 3 hours a day on phone games (candy crush), and shes always on her laptop.

 

I just want our togetherness back but the next day i come home and back flips all i had shared the night before and accuses me of not spending time with her and its all my doing. Id been home for 10 minutes and had to call my doctor first thing. Omg

 

Anyways it caused huge arguments it was outrageous and hurt me because i had just shared feeling alone the night before and this was her response to that.

 

So over the days it got worse and gridlocked emotionally no remorse from her and refused to apologize, so i basically moved all my belongings into the shed because why share myself with someone who doesn't care and the past 2 weeks been spending my life out there. She still cant work out why omg

 

We we're meant to be moving into a new house soon, ive cancelled that and shes moving there alone now. We also have a 14 month year old daughter. Who we will now have to split custody of and give her a broken family

 

I cannot forget and move on and share my goodness with someone if im not thought about emotionally and cared for by my partner if im feeling hurt

 

Its a complete waste of my time, im there for her in every way with her issues, her vents and her sadness. When im hurting she couldn't careless

So no apology or remorse so this relationship is over.

(Nearly 3 years together)

I honestly feel like a butler most of the time 

 

Now im living in a shed and about to have a $500 a week house rent to maintain. The rental market is impossible there is no where else to go...

 

Could someone reflect some thoughts im alone in the world, no siblings no friends to share my difficulties with...

 

 

 

 

10 Replies 10

benji777
Community Member

The end is near, less than 2 weeks to go until she leaves for her next house. Im still living in the shed doing everything i can to avoid her and fighting. Things returned to wellness over easter....she actually apologised for the above initial hurtful experience and i immediately felt much better and wanted to be with her, however the usual cycle returned and another final argument reignited the old arguments and back to square one we went and back to shed i went. Relationship over. Counting the days now will soon have the house to myself.... Peace....

 

Heres why im sadly ending it with my 1 year old daughters mother..... 😞

 

Shes just an angry hot headed person in waiting. Its not fun to be around, she over reacts to any difficulty or change in life and then strives to hurt others when these minor life hurdles hurt her.

But then she also requires every one to be on her team and attend to her sweet needs but never does she do anything in return for anyone else. She is still that psycho pub manager where all her staff are scum if they might come across as human once in a while.

I cannot trust someone like this. Put my heart & soul into sharing, being kind & loving someone as a devoted and warm partner, only to be constantly let down and disappointed with hostile and outrageous reactions from someone who 2 minutes ago you think is your best friend, but now because theres a bit of jam fallen on the bench for instance, is now your worst enemy.

Its not a comforting life its, she is not an emotionally safe person to be with, i dont need unnecessary turmoil every second day and to be walking on egg shells trying to avoid the next ridiculous breakdown.

Its a far better life being alone without all this, someone else can endure these petty dramas because ive seen way too many of them now and cannot see any joy in staying with her for more. Her next meltdown is only seconds away.

Im not perfect either, but i am easy going and decent enough to not trash my significant other and id prefer someone a little more composed and a bit more thoughtful or have no one.