Is it OK for my current partner to be angry with me for speaking to my ex-husband recently

[HarleyQ]

1. I've been in my current relationship for 5 years prior to that I was married for 10 years with two kids. My ex husband has been in and out of incarceration for the past 5 years a week ago he got out of prison and contacted me via Facebook. As I know my current partner does not like him I did not write back at the time. However I did right back to my ex-husband using an old Facebook account. Since this happened last week my current partner has been verbally abusing me putting me down and has been somewhat controlling for example going through my bank accounts all my transactions all my phone calls all my text all my social media accounts basically my entire phone. My current partner feel justified to act this way because I lied and did not tell him that I had spoken to my ex husband recently as I knew it would cause me problems now I have been getting treated very badly since I don't know what to.do I have apologised

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear HarleyQ…

A very warm and caring welcome to our forums…

I am sorry your going through this, but in my own opinion I feel your partner is abusing you and your privacy and being very disrespectful to you…

If I understand your post, you have 2 children to your ex husband, whether or not he has been incarcerated he is still the father of your children and therefore I’m certain would like to talk to you at times to see how they are…

Your current partner, must have known that the father of your children will at sometime in the future want to talk to you about them….

Setting boundries is something that you may need to consider….

My kindest thoughts Dear HarleyQ..

Grandy..