How do you get over a relationship with someone with Narcissist Personality Disorder?
Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums. You have had some confusing and challenging times and based on what you have said I am glad you have ended this relationship. Have you visited a counsellor lately Tiyani? I think you could benefit a lot to talk this out with a professional who you comfortable with and develop some plans for your mental health in the future. I know you can feel better about this. It might help for a while to forget those things in the past that you cannot change and focus with love on the present moment, focus on what you can do for your self right now that is in your best interest. It takes practice!
I think it is important to have awareness of your strengths, the things that you care about and are passionate about outside of a relationship. You could even write these things down, I do, so I can see and think about who I am, my family and friends, career, hobbies, passions, nature, music etc. I ensure that I have plans and that I am active in all parts of my life and that gives me strength when one part is challenged.
Talk any time.
I have just had to make the heartbreaking decision to leave someone like this. I have made a commitment to a close friend to send her a text or photo of something positive I am doing for myself every day. That way I am accountable and I have to do it. It is just something small but it seems to be working, thought I would share.
Wow! This all sounds so familiar. It's so sad to read all your stories yet in a way I'm grateful for stumbling upon your experiences also. I also never thought I would meet such a person and didn't know what narcissistic/mysoginist/gaslighter personality. I've just come out of 2 years also with this type of person and just wanted it to be like it was in the beginning. However 3 months in and I knew this wasn't the one and tried to leave many times. More so after he was caught out sending innapropriate photos on social media of himself. Unfortunately I believed all the lies and promises and stories and was manipulated into staying because "if you loved me you wouldn't leave" "if you loved me, you would move closer to me". This turned out to be 2 hours from the CBD and after moving he moved in a week later and 4 days in left. Was all too much aka there was another person in the back ground who he had been eyeing off for a couple of months. But it was me that was crazy and it was all in my head. Luckily I was strong this time round and when he said he made a mistake I said NO! As hard as it is being alone I'm grateful for getting out alive and don't need the fear of having a fist in my face to instill fear !
Love yourselves ladies and gents and be safe