Grandparent/parent/grandchild relationship

[EarthAngle]

Okay, so my dad is is not happy that he hardly ever gets to see his grandson anymore…. Understandable. Though my ex and I have court orders, I get my son Thursday after school and stays with me right through the weekend. We live an hour away from his school, so spending 2 hours in the car for him on Friday is so exhausting for a young boy of 7 by the time the weekend comes he doesn’t want to really go anywhere… I mean nor do I. We already live busy lives. Though I am in deep trouble because I don’t take my son out to see his granddad anymore… we used to visit each other occasionally when we lived in town. I also do hours upon hours a week of driving on top of work and maintaining the property where we live, my father and I don’t really have a great relationship but I have been threatened by another family member saying I am with holding my son from my father… that’s not the case. We all so damn exhausted we don’t want to be running around at the end of the week, we’re all spreading ourselves so thin. I’m so tired of the drama and being made feel like I have to run after him. I understand grandparent grandson relationships are important but I just don’t know what to do. He can come out and see him if he would like, though I like people to text before coming out as a courtesy. 

[Ggrand]

Dear EarthAngle,

I am a grandmother and great grandmother and rarely see my children or grand children…it hurts really deeply inside my soul…The reason being now, the traveling distance (7.5hours) to where we, or I live from them….For me to take the trip to see them is far to difficult for me with high anxiety and hard for my fur girls…

Both my children work 6 days a week, I don’t ever expect them to visit me on the week ends, but it would be nice if through their annual make a small visit to me…..even a couple of days…A great/grand mother’s/father’s love for their great/grand children is so special….We as parents don’t realise that the  love goes very deep for our grandchildren…

I’m wondering if you could organise a time with your father so he could call over to your place, every 2nd weekend…or if you could possibly put aside a few days through your annual leave, long weekends, the Easter break etc..to take that 2 hour drive so your beautiful son can see his grandfather…

EarthAngle, I know by your post that you are really very busy with working, and maintaining your property on your own….it’s hard, really hard and exhausting, your  beautiful son has had a fairly good relationship and regular visits to his grandfather….from birth?..and he is probably might be missing seeing and interacting with his grandfather…

My words, are not to hurt you or anything like that, just my own views of a grandmother who misses her grandchildren so much that it hurts daily…I have seen my great grandson twice since he was born…he s now 4…my grandchildren are mostly grown now, my youngest 2, I first saw when they were a few months old, then a couple of times in between...now they are nearly 11 years old….I’ve missed out on seeing them grow…It’s really sad for me and my grandchildren…..

I really do hope, that sometime in e future, that your beautiful son can continue, (somehow) his relationship with his grandfather…..maybe get together with you dad and meet half way for a day visit at a park or somewhere nice that they can interact with each other…

My kindest thoughts, with my care..

Grandy..