Feeling lost and in love, tell us your reasons.

geoff · ‎24-05-2021

We have many comments about being in love with someone but unable to achieve what we desire for many reasons.

Love is a beautiful word that can be expressed by just a small smile, a floating kiss or even a simple message that only has a word or two, such as I cherish you, I want you to be by my side or more adoring words, sometimes we are too afraid to show our love and causes problems that we were not expecting.

Why do we show our pets more love than we do with our partner/spouse?

All thoughts are welcome, both good and those that truly upset us.

Take care.

Geoff.

TunnelVision · ‎13-11-2021

My goodness, WaterFront. You've been through a lot. As others said, it sounds like you are trying to rationalise things, and you said that for her perhaps it was a FWB thing but more serious than you. But you had a joint account. FWB's don't do that.

It sounds to me like you deserve much, much more than she was prepared or able to offer, and I hope one day that you find it.

geoff · ‎13-11-2021

Hello WF, and thanks TunnelVision, telling this person that his marriage will suffer didn't mean anything to him, all he wanted was to have his fun, now he lives apart from his de facto, but has another person from o/s living with him.

The same situation will happen once again and in the long run, he is the one who is going to lose,but it's impossible to tell him.

Geoff.

WaterFront · ‎13-11-2021

Hi TunnelVision,

Thank you for acknowledging that I have been through a lot. I feel like I have and it makes me feel a little better to hear that being validated and acknowledged, receiving some words of support. I have discovered this 'hide alerts' function on my phone which allows you to not be notified of messages etc. from individual people. I'm doing this instead of blocking her. As soon as I did it, I felt like a weight was lifted and able to not have to avoid my phone (then more able to communicate with other people in my life). I'm going with that for the moment.

Thanks TunnelVision. Your words have helped.

WF

WaterFront · ‎13-11-2021

Hi Geoff,

Unfortunately, people won't listen when they don't want to hear. The best you can hope for is that they learn from their actions and do better the next time and if they haven't worn you out, be there to help pick up the pieces.

WF

geoff · ‎05-12-2021

Hello WF, I'm sorry I haven't been on this important thread and for missing your comment, and yes he has learnt his lesson and tells me he hopes it never happens again and keep a watchful eye on the finances.

What is most disappointing is that his wife has been doing all of this without him knowing and when you love a person this shouldn't be the case, especially if you were meant to trust your spouse and have a joint account, you naturally believe that everything would be honest.

The trouble is, once a person has done this a couple of times, once before they married and then after, they have the urge to keep doing it and will eventually be caught out.

True love doesn't work like this.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

Guest_1584 · ‎21-01-2022

Hi Geoff.

Thought l'd drop in and let you know a strange thing happened last wk. That letter l ended up sending to ex, heard nothing back for mths and mths and had pretty well figured well that is that but at lest she knows now what l'd been wanting to say.

Well , it turned up right her in my letter box last wk, after all this time, returned and un opened. l found out later on she'd moved again and across the country , 6mth before l'd sent that.She mustn't have left a forwarding address , maybe she left on bad terms don't know. But it had stamps on it from where it had been and none of them were even in the same state to where she lives now so she just didn't get it after all that.

Not meant to be. But it was strange though , to feel this letter again knowing it had been all over the US and to her old house , and now back her to Vic Aus again.

rx

geoff · ‎22-01-2022

Hello RX, this must be disappointing for you, I'm sorry, but at least after all the thought, you had put into the letter, now it's back in your hands.

Are you going to keep searching for her or finally give up.

There was a letter found in a bottle just recently at the seashore from years ago, maybe you could do the same and see what happens.

Take care.

Geoff.

Guest_1584 · ‎22-01-2022

Hi Geoff.

You know what , it was actually a relief. A few wks after l'd sent it l started thinking about what l'd said and just not feeling right about it all. As hard as l'd tried to say the stuff l'd been wanting to say for 2yrs, l just felt like l did it all wrong and that she'd probably just take it all the wrong way anyway bc it still just hadn't come out right .

But nah , l won't bother again. l do have her new address now actually but the other thing l got to thinking about was that in all this time she hasn't popped up again. Hasn't come back onto whatsapp to talk to me, hasn't sent me a letter , moved across the country without telling me, didn't return my call earlier, she's making a new life. Soooo, best just leave it all be l think anyway now.

Messages in a bottle are a beautifully romantic thought aren't they .

Hope your doing ok.

rx

Guest_1643 · ‎22-01-2022

Hi rx sorry I've not caught up fully but have read back a little and I think it's really cool u tried to send Ur ex a letter.

Guest_1584 · ‎22-01-2022

Hiya sleep and thanks for that.

l suppose it might have been , l'm really not sure butttt, l tried yeah.

On my part not much to catch up on here though sorry, this was just an ex thing that's troubled me for yrs. My real love life is over in my thread , living alone , butttt, things aren't looking good with that either now due to her legal problems, can't win it seems.

Hope your ok.

rx