I feel emotionally exhausted and overwhelmed lately.
I’m in a relationship where another girl developed feelings for my partner, and even though he says he chose me, the situation has been going on for months and it deeply affected my sense of safety and trust.
I feel constantly anxious and triggered whenever I see her name or hear about her. It got to the point where I can’t calm my thoughts down and I feel like I’m emotionally breaking apart inside.
I know I’ve become reactive and emotional, but I also feel hurt because my intuition about the situation turned out to be real. I’m struggling with jealousy, fear of abandonment, anxiety and feeling like I’m “not enough”.
At the same time, I still love him and I don’t want to destroy the relationship. I just don’t know how to stop feeling this constant panic and emotional pain.
I think I need help learning how to calm my mind and feel safe in myself again.
I also think an important part of this is that I never fully healed emotionally after being betrayed before in this relationship.
I forgave him because I truly love him and wanted us to move forward, but I think a part of me still stayed scared and emotionally unsafe inside.
Now this situation with another girl having feelings for him is bringing all of those old fears and wounds back to the surface again.
It makes everything feel more intense, and sometimes I feel like I’m constantly waiting to get hurt again even when I don’t want to think that way.
What also makes it harder is that she is still constantly around him and often takes his emotional attention even during the time that is supposed to be ours together.
I understand that she is struggling and I truly don’t want to be cruel or heartless, but emotionally it has become extremely overwhelming for me.
I don’t want to become controlling or toxic. I just feel emotionally exhausted from constantly feeling anxious, triggered and emotionally unsafe in my own relationship.
