Dysfunctional marriage, at a complete loss i just cry
I am so sorry to hear of your struggle with your wife, and how deeply it has affected your life and your marriage.
May I suggest that you get some help for yourself, in the form of a fellowship of peer support called Al-anon. Al-anon is a fellowship for people who are affected by other people's drinking. the contact number for Al-anon is 1300 ALANON (1300 252 666).
And please remember that help is never as far away as you may think it is ....... you're already found a support network right here, and available 24/7.
Take care. And if I/we can help any more, just say the word. xo