Breakup and mental health

[Bren7]

Hi just recently broke up with my girlfriend after getting really hurt by her. I was already in a depressive state and this made it a lot worse. She eventually msg me saying how sorry she is and she has a lot of issues including commitment. I forgave her but still can’t get over the pain of being hurt which brought up past experiences in previous relationships and trauma.

she still cares for my well-being and did make some observations that I didn’t realise till now. I have trust issues, I’m very sensitive and I do look sad all the time.

It makes sense to me but now I’m thinking did I cause myself to get hurt

just don’t know what to think anymore 

[Toni_Hall]

This must be really difficult for you.

On the one hand, you have the break up, and on the other, issues of your own.

Try to remember that this breakup is as much about her past as it is about you. You can't be held responsible for things that happened before you met. 

Take this time instead to focus on you. Without being tied down to trying to make her happy, you can explore what makes you happier in yourself. It's okay to miss someone, even normal, but the best way to recover from that is to look inward and find the good in ourselves, remind ourselves that we are worth loving by taking the time to love ourselves.