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One day I'm feeling on top of the world, then boom I'm a mess!
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08-08-2017
10:19 AM
This is my first post on here, feeling a bit weird about posting but what can I loose. I have depression and PTSD for most of my adult life. I have been married for 26 yrs to a great man. I have 3 lovely daughters who are all special in their own way. I should be oh so happy right...well not today. In the last 10yrs I have been mostly feeling great. I finally started to see the world around me and enjoy the simplest of things, like my beautiful surroundings and how lucky I am to have 3 amazing girls. So why today do I feel lousy? Inside I just want to cry and feel sorry for myself. I feel lonely and sad. This happens to me every couple of months and I hate it. I usually manage to pull myself out of it but today it is tough. It only took a couple of days of having bad headaches, which turned into a migraine yesterday. I end up feeling a bit neglected and unloved when I'm not well. My husband doesn't give me the attention that I am wanting. It sounds really selfish but leaving me for hours in pain and finally saying "do you want some water?" I had to ask him to go to the chemist for something stronger than Panadol. Then my daughter comes home from school and I was thinking he would have said Mums not well. She went on the computer and never came near me. So then I start to get upset. Saying things to myself like..."no one gives a shit about me". Then I crack it with a splitting head ache to Hubby. Damn then I hate myself and go into self loafing. My migraine finally goes but I have a really bad nights sleep. I had horrific nightmares which happens when I'm like this.
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08-08-2017
11:17 AM
A quick run down on me....I have had depression and PTSD for most of my life and I'm 54 yrs old. My parents hated each other most of the time and dad was a violent man. I was raped at 17yrs and then was in a relationship for 6 yrs with a guy who was violent with me when he drank. I then met my future husband, a gentle and quiet guy. His father used to touch me inappropriately often. This would cause arguments between us as hubby didn't take it seriously. One of our daughters was 4 at the time and I think his father abused her too. So that was 18yrs ago. However this caused horrific arguments and family breakdown. I got the blame somehow by his family for his father being a predator. Working has been tricky. I actually supported people with Mental Health issues a couple of years ago. The organisation wasn't good to their employees so I ended up leaving and haven't worked since other than doing our own business accounts. Friendships have come and gone over the years. I have several lovely female friends that are very dear to me, thank goodness. there are days like today that I feel I can't burden them. From time to time I struggle and feel very sad.
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08-08-2017
12:00 PM
Hi Chrispie welcome 🙂 You've come to a good place, no need to feel weird here, no judgement just understanding, caring and support 🙂 It really is as many say a safe place to vent and meet others in similar situations
First up mammoth that you're mostly winning over the demons having lengthy times on top so keep remembering that you DO have strength and have learnt how to use it.
As you'd know well depressions OH SO GOOD at pulling us down, I find though a psychologist said it's the depression that creates tiredness yip no doubt he's right but also I find tiredness too creates depression that carries stress in itself which possibly the adrenalin and whatever else that gives us the pump to lift up causes us to go down if it's not released or used for it's purposes.
Have you been getting enough sleep?
Do you know of anything that could have bought you down again
If we can pinpoint causes makes it easier not easy to work on how to get back up.
Great you have Lovely daughters, great hubby though unfortunately not always understanding your needs, hard for those without this pain to understand, have you been able to talk to him deeply about what's going on and how hard it is, even in writing can be good cause no interruptions.
He does sound like a good bloke which is great but yeah need support in the hard times for sure aye.
Keep in mind it's the depression that's making you feel unloved, unappreciated etc... we see things in a negative spin thanks to the beast. I imagine you're very loved by what you've said about your lovely family.
Stress and pain needs an out I strongly suggest don't hold the tears in, let em rip, an out.
Sorry you're feeling this way and remember as you've found out and learnt it won't necessarily be like this all the time. You've got resilience, just gotta get through this bout and come out stronger again
You're on my threads now so I'l be back unless some unforseeable (oops ? sp lol) prevents me.
Hold on darl 🙂
First up mammoth that you're mostly winning over the demons having lengthy times on top so keep remembering that you DO have strength and have learnt how to use it.
As you'd know well depressions OH SO GOOD at pulling us down, I find though a psychologist said it's the depression that creates tiredness yip no doubt he's right but also I find tiredness too creates depression that carries stress in itself which possibly the adrenalin and whatever else that gives us the pump to lift up causes us to go down if it's not released or used for it's purposes.
Have you been getting enough sleep?
Do you know of anything that could have bought you down again
If we can pinpoint causes makes it easier not easy to work on how to get back up.
Great you have Lovely daughters, great hubby though unfortunately not always understanding your needs, hard for those without this pain to understand, have you been able to talk to him deeply about what's going on and how hard it is, even in writing can be good cause no interruptions.
He does sound like a good bloke which is great but yeah need support in the hard times for sure aye.
Keep in mind it's the depression that's making you feel unloved, unappreciated etc... we see things in a negative spin thanks to the beast. I imagine you're very loved by what you've said about your lovely family.
Stress and pain needs an out I strongly suggest don't hold the tears in, let em rip, an out.
Sorry you're feeling this way and remember as you've found out and learnt it won't necessarily be like this all the time. You've got resilience, just gotta get through this bout and come out stronger again
You're on my threads now so I'l be back unless some unforseeable (oops ? sp lol) prevents me.
Hold on darl 🙂
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08-08-2017
02:27 PM
Crispie ((( massive hugs )))
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08-08-2017
04:37 PM
Thanks I'm feeling it. So I'm feeling low and then I see my mother-in-law down the street. I haven't seen her for 2 yrs. A lot has happened ever since the incident when our daughter was 4. It's a struggle to make sense of everything. Protecting my girls was all I could think of. I believed I could watch his every move. However the same daughter told us 2yrs ago that for 3 yrs between the age of 17 to 20 he was also doing the same as he did to me, which was totally inappropriate behaviour. Before that we hadn't seen them for years due to what happened and stupidly we allowed them back into our lives. I live with guilt for allowing them back. My daughter is very strong and resilient and won't allow what happened to destroy her soul. She does martial arts, keeps herself fit and looks after herself. Plus she has her faith. My mother-in law has nothing to do with our girls and doesn't believe anything that has been told to her. Instead saying I'm crazy. So it's difficult to get them out of our life and mind totally. Although we have nothing to do with them, they haunt me.
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08-08-2017
07:53 PM
Craps allowed here but what I wanna says way more.
Keep talking darl, writing's a very good outlet, this needs to come out
Keep feeling the hugs, anytime darl there's an energy I think release in them from your chest where stress sits.
They're a lift
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