Dear G,
Yes hooray to small miracles! I love sewing too, mostly needlework, but my hands are so swollen from heavy work that holding a needle is not possible lol. I might need to exchange the chainsaw for a needle one day lol.
I understand the type of 'helicopter' relationship it appears you are in atm. It made me feel on guard all the time, a feeling of hyper (or is it hypo ugh!) vigilance. I still have this feeling but have some strategies to ground me, IF I remember to practise them.
I hope it's okay that I share a Course that I cannot praise highly enough. It was one of the most informative, supportive and educational courses I have ever attended. It is or was called 'Breaking Free' and was run through the local Women's Health Centre. I was referred by Headspace although you can self refer. I really must let them know how invaluable the course was hmmm...
I understand you can attend it in a 1:1 setting but I truly felt the group setting was far more beneficial for me.
MANY women were still in their troublesome marriages.
It is NOT a judgemental course. Amazing support and some laughs too which was surprising.
The commitment of 10 weekly sessions was daunting to me but after putting it off for nearly a year and feeling so overwhelmed, I enrolled and it was a pinnacle turning point for me in changing all the things that I had to change. My situation was very dark indeed.
It completely opened my eyes and I was sitting there gobsmacked for many of the sessions.
It took me years to implement all the actions I needed to. Most of these actions I never saw coming! But if I hadn't attended the course, then I would never have known what to do next or who to go to for help. It helps you get 'linked in' to many other support services if you choose.
I am so glad you are here. I Pray that you can find many moments of peace in your day.
EM
