New C-PTSD Diagnosis

[EH7991]

My boyfriend broke up with me messily and over the course of two weeks.

Because of that break up I have discovered and started exploring the fact that I have complex PTSD (has been diagnosed).

As I am researching trauma to understand my brain and my coping behaviours, I am often reminded of my ex and the reasons for our breakup (because of those trauma coping mechanisms).

Should I be refraining from starting my recovery (e.g. researching) until I see my psychologist in a fortnight, or should I continue but monitor how my mind and body feels?

I’m also struggling with so much sadness at this loss because it was such a beautiful connection. I am accepting of the situation and at peace with it yet still get waves of grief.

Any advice or similar stories would be so very appreciated

[Sophie_M]

Hi EH7991, 

Welcome to the forums, we hope you find them to be a friendly and understanding place 🙂 
It sounds like you are having a really difficult time with your recent break up. We are really sorry to hear that, relationships can be very challenging when they don't work out how we wanted them to. We think it is an amzing step for you to have shared your story with us all here today - thank you for being brave. The fact that you are planning on seeing a psycologist is wonderful - we have put some other options for support below if you feel like talking to someone before that. 
Please feel to chekc back in and update us on how you are going if you feel comfortable doing so. Again, welcome and thank you for showing the courage to seek support and share your experience with us here on the forums. 

BeyondBlue 
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Kind regards, 

Sophie M

 

[Croix]

Dear EH7991~

Welcome here, I'm glad you have already met Sophie_M who does give good advice and links. I'm also sorry your relationship has ended, it - if you are like me- will have left you in great greif, loss, frustration, anger and probably a large dose of self-blame.

I'm very pleased you are seeing your psych so quickly and particularly happy you already have a diagnosis already, mine was PTSD, bouts of depression and anxiety.

I found being diagnosed was a huge help as it allowed me to understand the things I'd being doing, from controlling my world, suspicion of all, crying, nightmares, anger .... and so on as symptoms of the illness.

I did not do 'unguided research' as I think you are talking of and would suggest things be on hold for a little while. The first reason is your current state following the breakup may be an extra fragile one where you need to look after yourself and not introduce more confrontational facts.

Secondly it is 'unguided', and no matter what a person's skill, trying to get exact authoritative information on mental health issues as they apply to oneself from the web is next to impossible.

The explanations, the reasons behind, and the means to help control and reduce my actions came via my psychiatrist, who not only told me the background information but encouraged me to do 'guided' research. As an example to look up particular behavior in a specific journal article, or medications and their effects.

This led to me having confidence in the results and problems were approached, if not in a partnership, at least with me being able to take actions to understand myself.

If in the meantime you wished to talk to someone about the sadness of breaking up I'd expect that Griefline1300 845 745

https://griefline.org.au/

May be a good place to talk, its free, and while not designed specifically to assist wiht your CPTSD may give you some tools to cope wiht part of the greif.

Bear in mind of course the resources Sophie suggests too, they are spot-on

I'd also ask if you have anyone in your life, family or freind perhaps, you can lean on, talk frankly with and simply care -not try to fix? Having someone like that helps, being on your own makes it extra hard.

Please do come back again and talk some more.

Croix

[Rs9911]

Hí Sophie I would go see a psychiatrist / psychological to get whaever help you need.

My personal experience when my mothar leat this earth in 2001 - it sounds like you are certainly going through a gríeving process, PTS is simply a series of negative emotions attá chéad to a traumatic event(s) that take time and counselling to ré over from. I’ve been in your shoes and speaking with all the authority i can give based on what i want through. The good news is with time, the appropriate treatment and Support network these traumas will become less and less debilitating.

Whatever course of action you take

just take sola é in the fact your feelings are not foréigin to you. There is nothing wrong with who you are. You are just going through a trying time. Everyone is with you here

all the best