Dear Mpete
Hello and welcome to beyondblue. I am sorry your wife has PTSD which is hard on her but also on you. I understand you want to help her as much as possible but you are unsure how to do this.
Your wife goes to a therapist I see. Is this a psychologist or psychiatrist? How often does she go? I wonder if it would be helpful for you to attend some of her appointments. It would need her permission and the therapist's permission, but sometimes this can be helpful.
When you say you want her to have everything she desires, what sort of things are you talking about? I ask because I am wondering if you see giving her presents will help her to heal. It is nice to give your wife gifts but when they are constantly offered it can end up being a right to have them or not fully appreciated. Please tell me if my words upset you. I like to have everything clear in my mind but certainly I do not want to upset you.
Mary
I am glad you understand that being pushed away is part of her mental illness
