Dear New Member~
I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum. I'm sorry your dad has had the bad news and given an estimate of the years he has left.
I"m sorry you have the news too, and I'd like to tell you that 3 days is simply too short a time to hear the news and come to terms with it - you are still in shock. Right now the news crowds in and takes over all your thinking - which of course is very natural.
People hear thay have a fatal illness and react in different ways. Although I'm sure your dad has heard the diagnosis it it does not mean he realy listens. Some people simply close their ears and plan for a long life. Others do listen and plan to maximize what they have been told they have left.
My first wife was given a year to live, and although she spent around 9 months of it in hospital was still planning on the things she wanted to do once she was better and out and about again. Sadly the prognosis was exactly right.
After a period like you where it filled my mind and emphasized all that would be lost I eventually accepted it, quietly made what arrangements one could when a spouse is going to pass away and went in every day to spend the evenings after work with her.
There was no benefit in trying to persuade her that her time as limited so I simply went along with her plans and hopes. At times we had fun, as we used to do, other times we were together. and talked read or watched TV.
While you may well end up with the most realistic idea of what is going to happen I am not sure that reminding your dad and stepmother of the situation. If right now they want not to accept or to pretend things are fine why not let them be? Events will catch up soon enough.
Later on I would expect they will need support, and I would expect you need it now as the forthcoming loss of a parent is a huge upset. Can I suggest you talk with Grief-line, who may assist you, that is what they are there for.
It will take a long time and during that time you always going to be welcome here
Croix
