loved ones suffering trauma with you.

[Blufftuff]

Having numerous accounts of trauma myself, the hardest thing was watching my family being there but feeling helpless.

My wife would often cry herself to sleep and I could not even rollover or communicate with her to comfort her.

This also really does have an effect on recovery as you really want to for their sake but the worry for them only adds stress/anxiety to the trauma.

I have numerous stories regarding and more than willing to share should you be interested.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Blufftuff,

Thank you for your post - and I just happened to come across your other one at the same time too.

I can see how this would be really hard - while people often think of trauma as 'this one person' it really does have a knock on affect to so many people. It also makes it hard when two people are going through their own trauma, and I can imagine that you and your wife might cope a little differently too.

I'd be willing to listen - as would other members of course - if you'd like to share more.

rt

P.S I'll link to the other one here just to help other members support you too -

[Blufftuff]

Thanks for kind words and encouragement.

I have many stories of near death experiences where my wife has been told at least 5 times I was going to die and to get I C U now.

I had a serious car accident where she was told this, however I pulled through and was discharged from hospital,

upon arriving home I collapsed and my wife managed to get me into bed where I lay for Days unable to move, speak and had no vision,

Every night I would hear my wife cry her self to sleep and I would think there was point in living and I just wanted to give up. These thoughts became more and more regular,

During this time a 92 year old lady I knew believed I was not going to die and she came everyday to my home sat in my bedroom and she prayed until the day I opened my eyes, this was just the beginning as I still could not communicate or move, adding to my anxiety/depression.

over time I was able to get up assisted and walk to dining Table where I would sit all day staring out the window just thinking all these negative thoughts and believing the lies I was telling myself.

I needed help to feed myself and I had to learn how to speak again and I could not comprehend being told too much so writing was an excellent form of communication for a while.

There is a lot more to this story and I will continue later as there is too much to read

Thanks.

[Blufftuff]

often we go through trauma and we think we are the only ones going through it

But the reality is all family members and friends are going through it too.

After accidents I have had over the years, I have sat down with my wife and kids and listened to how they they felt going through this tough time with me and it brought me to tears hearing their experiences and how they had to cope with the situation.