I’m overwhelmed

[Guest_78947153]

I have finally left my husband of 25 years after years of physical but mainly the mental abuse over the last 2 years. I should be happy that I finally left but I’m not. I hate him what what he did and breaking me like this. I was a strong person and never did I think I would ever feel like this. And yet for some stupid reason I love him and just want him back. I don’t have any friends or family to talk to and this is the first time I’m reaching out like this. I have spoken to someone through this website before but it was a one on one so I don’t know what to expect but I just want to feel like someone cares and smile. A real smile not the fake ones I’ve been giving out for so long now. To top it all off our lease ran out and since Thursday night I have also been staying in my car with my 2 dogs. Thought camping would be fun but didn’t count in them being so protective that no living soul can walk past if in sight and the poor ducks didn’t deserve the scare they got. One of the dogs broke her collar and runner trying to give chase. I feel just as stressed here as I did at home. I don’t have anyone to talk to and the fact that I’m feeling hate and love for the one person that’s been in my life since I was 15 is just adding to the stress because all it’s doing is confusing me and making me angry or upset. At the moment I feel like I’m all cried out and I feel so down. I went to a quiet part of the river and I’m on my own here which is great for when I just get overwhelmed and have a cry but I wish there was Simone here who just pretends to care. Someone that could help me feel better. I’m sorry if this is too long and boring. I feel like a hug so badly. Does anyone else feel like this or has felt like this and what do you do when you have absolutely no one to go to. And my dogs are all hugged out and they don’t hug back unfortunately. Lol

[Sophie_M]

Hi Guest_78947153,

We’re so sorry to hear what you’ve been going through with your past relationship and the really difficult living situation. It sounds like it’s had some very serious impacts on your wellbeing. We’re glad you could share this here and we wanted to provide some extra support. 

We can hear you are overwhelmed after leaving your long-term relationship. Please know that n a healthy relationship, you should always be communicated with and treated with respect, so it might be worth having a look at the 1800Respect pages on healthy relationships. It sounds like it could be useful to have a chat with one of the lovely people at 1800Respect to discuss how you’ve been treated by your partner and how to heal now that you've left. It's common to go through a range of emotions, even missing them despite how you were treated. They're on 1800 737 732, or you can reach them on online chat, here.  You could also speak to Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277.  
 
It sounds like it's really having an impact on how you're feeling day to day, so please know that there’s always someone here for you to talk it through with. The Beyond Blue counsellors are available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or online. It's really important to be kind to yourself through this, so there's some tips for practicing self-care here. 

Thanks again for sharing here. We appreciate your bravery and openness in sharing to the forums, and we hope you can be kind to yourself, too while you’re going through this extremely difficult time.  

Kind regards,  

Sophie M 

[Andrewbb]

Hello.

I hear you... even though its txt ... lols.

I would say first thing is speak to a counsellor.

A counsellor is a professional person and what you talk about stays with you and them.

So you do not have to feel like you are talking to a stranger.

A counsellor can refer you to other places for professional help and assistance.

And it is hard to let go of feelings and previous relationships.

Again... speaking to a counsellor can give you direction for self help and healing.

You have to learn to do it yourself and it can be quite hard at times.

Its a wave of emotional ups and downs but if you get positive support it should help you.

Also again .... speaking to a counsellor also helps you to have someone listen to you and you will feal like you have been heard and acknowledged.

Whilst at the same time the counsellor is thinking of some immediate ways to help.

And/or.... Go see your doctor and ask for a health care plan and you can get assistance this way and for free... no cost.

Beyond Blue should and will also have referrals for people like you and us to get assistance For no costs. 

I am happy to chat more if you like to and let me know but firstly reading your post i feel for you and you need help,

so please seek help and assistance from counselling here as a start.

Take care.

Andrewbb