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Finding out about severe emotional trauma in my childhood

Shittenbricks
Community Member

ive written this out SO many times im so tired so have this crappy thing. can elaborate or explain more if asked. 

 

had dinner with my dad and bf today. im 18 bf is 19. me and mum have been fighting recently primarily bc she does not understand ADHD. went to this sushi joint next to ikea. dad gave me some advice revealed to me that mum has a history of manipulation, lying, not taking responsibility for her actions, twisting things to be anyone elses fault. said she had been investigated for corruption in her job bc was bankrupt and having an affair with her boss. didnt know any of this. she dumped all of her debt on my dad. dropped the big one: she screamed at me as a child to the point i was balled up in the corner. multiple times. no freaking wonder i cant stand being yelled at or told off. 

 

the other day she said all of my reasons for being upset are stupid. said my bf cant stay anymore bc my room is a little too messy (couple things on the floor, i like keeping it clean and clean it everyday???)i also cant move out lol she wont allow it. she also wants board. what. the crap. ok goodnight lol

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geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello, as you are 18 you can certainly move out, irrespective of what your mother says, you're an adult and have the choice to do what pleases you.

She has done so much harm to your dad, yourself and now your boyfriend with corruption investigation and having an affair with her boss, which could have been done for a purpose.

I wouldn't pay her board and think about moving out.

Geoff.

Life Member.