Feeling unsafe after conflict at home – trauma response, not coping well

Mudcakes

Chat gpt wrote this for me, im quite distressed and needed it summarised.

Hi everyone,

I’m posting because I’m really shaken tonight and struggling to ground myself, and I could use some support or perspective.

I live in a very small apartment with my mum, and both of us are currently sick with the flu. Tonight, something that was emotionally important to me broke suddenly and loudly right in front of me while I was already vulnerable and calm for the first time in a while. My body went into shock – shaking, freezing, crying – and I asked for help.

What followed was an argument where things escalated quickly. I asked for space in my room multiple times, but it wasn’t respected, and voices were raised. Because of my past trauma, having my personal space invaded is extremely triggering for me. It sent me straight into a trauma response.

During the conflict, I was called “abusive” because I swore while highly dysregulated. That word has hit me very deeply, as it links directly to past abuse I’ve experienced. I now feel overwhelmed with shame, fear, and confusion, and my nervous system feels completely overloaded.

I want to be very clear: I did not threaten anyone, I did not try to control anyone, and I was trying to get space to feel safe. But right now my brain keeps looping on the accusation, and I’m struggling to calm down or trust myself.

On top of that, the apartment is tiny, neighbours are having a loud party, and I feel trapped with nowhere quiet to regulate. I’m safe physically, but emotionally I feel shattered and on edge.

I guess I’m posting because:

I need reassurance that trauma responses and boundary panic aren’t the same as being an abusive person
I’m struggling with shock and emotional fallout after conflict at home
I feel really alone and flooded right now

If anyone has been through something similar – being triggered by family conflict, being mislabelled during dysregulation, or feeling unsafe in your own space – I’d really appreciate hearing how you got through it or what helped.

Thank you for reading. Even writing this out helps a little.

i even feel bad using ai

Lei

Hey.

Don't feel bad.

Your response doesn't define who you are. And don't feel bad about using AI.

Your identity is different to your response as a result of past trauma. I believe this can be managed as you work through with either people/counsellors or using an effective therapy.

And if the fight was with your mum, the guilt really hits. Everytime I lash out at my mum, the guilt for doing it becomes unbearable.

You're not alone. You're not alone in feeling this way and every response you've had. Know that there are people out there who understand, know that others are also going through similar things.

Take courage, you're stronger than you think.

Mudcakes

Thank you💖

Psychdiaries2

Hello,

I’m so sorry to hear about the struggle you are going through right now. And don’t feel bad about using AI to write since it helped you express your feelings.

I just want to assure you that in the heat of a moment, unfortunately mean things often get said that aren’t true. As difficult as it is to hear someone call you a name, remember that it doesn’t define you. It sounds to me that you were not respected and that is not your fault.

I think right now you need time to process everything that happened. I know you said you live in a cramped apartment, but perhaps you could get out and go for a walk? If not, try to do some calming activities at home like journaling about your feelings, reading a book, watching a movie, etc. (this is what I usually do when I feel guilty or sad and am trying to move forward).

I hope you don’t beat yourself up too much, you deserve better. Thank you for sharing and I hope things get a bit better for you soon. Never stop reaching out!