Hello KGT, and a warm welcome to the site.
I've read your story several times and really sorry that it did happen, especially by your father at such a young age.
Can I ask you a question, and please only answer this if you want to, I wonder if you knew at this time whether or not he was struggling with any type of depression and realise it was a while ago, however, this still doesn't give him the right to perform such an intrusive and deplorable act and want to know if he has ever apologised or has just kept it quite.
I feel your heartbreak and know what it can do to you and am so very sorry it ever happened because it should have never ever occurred under any circumstance.
The impact from this can certainly be a real problem, especially when or if you have had your own children, memories from this can't be forgotten, not only with your own family but also with your friends who have had the opportunity to also have children, so it needs to be addressed and how you decide to do this, depends on far you want to take this.
I know as you say your father is well loved, but this doesn't stop you from recalling the incident when other children are present and unfortunately, going to affect how you feel every time and this must be upsetting for you and people won't know the reason why
I can't tell you what to do, but if my sister had to encounter the same ordeal, then no matter how loving your father is, needs to be raised, whether you begin by talking to a psychologist/doctor or if you want to confront your father either by yourself or with someone you trust with you.
I can provide links for you or Sophie_M can, but I'd really love to hear back from you whenever you are available, please remember you have our full support.
Geoff. x
