Dear Healing heart~
I've read your introductory post at:
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Welcome and orientation /
Ongoing issues
Plus your encouraging comments to a number of other posters. I would think they have helped.
Domestic violence is a terrible thing, and in many ways it's effects are not as straightforward as those who have not been through it might imagine.
Your having to move at least twice, probably changed jobs, and the resultant drain on your finances is just one aspect. You say they are temporary and I hope things soon pick up.
I guess that lack of understanding is one huge problem. If one suffers a natural disaster then sympathy and understanding flow freely, people can imagine what it might have been like. With DV so often the perpetrator presents an acceptable face to the world and reserves ill treatment for just the partner, and maybe the kids too.
Do you have any kids (if you don't mind me asking)?
The actual leaving, which takes bravery, unusual self-confidence and resources is one thing. Few seem to realise the long term implications, both practical and emotional, and there one finds oneself more alone.
May I ask if you have anyone at all to give you understanding and care - a family member or friend perhaps? Being isolated simply makes matters worse.
By the sound of it therapy has not been all you hoped, which may simply be you have not been lucky enough to find the right therapist at this stage. Sometimes even a GP can give more understanding and support (and more of them bulk-bill)
One alternative, excuse me if you have already considered this, is a support group from people with similar experiences. If you ring our 24/7 Help Line on 1300 22 4636 or one you are probably familiar with: 1800Respect - 1800 737 732, maybe they might know of a group in your area.
You are always going to be welcome here
Croix
