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Coping with girlfriend BPD

Guest_18967272
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So I'm in a same sex relationship with a girl that has BPD and ADHD, I'm just trying to understand what this means for me. 

 

She has worked on herself a lot to cope with this and we communicate really well. There are many times it scares me, especially when she is at home alone, she might self harm or worse. 

 

I keep calm and try and understand her emotions, but it's really hard sometimes when she disassociates or her mood might change or gets distracted due to her ADHD. It feels like everything for her is a struggle. 

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Sophie_M
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Hi there, 

Thank you so much for sharing how it's been going for you. We’re glad you could post here as sometimes it can be difficult when someone we care about is struggling. We can hear you’re a caring partner and your concerns come from a supportive place, but it’s also a difficult and scary time especially when you are worried about when she is home alone. 

I’m sure we’ll hear from our amazing community soon, but in the meantime, we wanted to share a couple of pages with you in case they interest you, some may not be the exact situation you are experiencing but may have some helpful tips for you: 
We hope you are looking after your own boundaries, and your own wellbeing as it can be quite worrying experiencing this and it can lead to feelings of emotional exhaustion over time. If you’d like any more ideas or information on this, feel free to have a look at our pages on looking after yourself while supporting someone.  

The Beyond Blue counsellors are here for you if you’d like to talk this through on 1300 22 4636, or via online chat. It is so important that you look after yourself during these times and they can help you, or just be there if you want to talk. 

We can hear you’ve worried at times about harm that could be caused to herself. If you’re ever concerned about her safety it’s important to know that you can call 000 as this is an emergency. 

Thanks again for sharing here. We really appreciate your kindness and openness in sharing and offering your support here on the forums, so we hope you can be kind to yourself also through this time. 

Kind regards,  

Sophie M