Angry with GP & Clinician

[Imarni]

I recently FOI my psych records for various reasons. I’ve seen 3 Psychiatrists, all diagnoses CPTSD & Bipolar 2. Very clear Hypomania and depressive episodes and PTSD is childhood sexual abuse based and I’ve had eating disorders - fair to say most people are somewhat messed up from childhood sexual abuse?

In the records my clinician contacted my GP about medication, fair enough I’ve had Suicide attempts. My GP went on about worried she was about my uni child - this was 2018, he’s left home now “he is too dependent on his mother and she him and each has no supports 😡” how I have “spoilt my youngest son” um would they prefer I abused them? How she believes in her opinion I have Borderline personality disorder as I change day to day. Yes that called TRAUMA😓. I am so dumbfounded and struck with anger that my clinician who’s always been a great advocate. My trust for both is gone and now I have no place to access a GP, I have complex physical health also as well as mental. I quit community psych care I trust few and that blown rapport.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Thankyou for sharing this important topic.

It is difficult in such situations- "have I over reacted" or "have I underreacted"? Under reacted you could report both professionals but likely ont get anywhere as they are expressing their opinions. Over reacting could be the case because although you no longer trust them that doesnt mean they are not capable in treating you in so many other ways....eg physical issues and medication scripts.

If I was a GP or similar I would want my patient to front me or write to me expressing my disappointment in how they have judged you and your parenting skills. If you write to them you can type their reports out then in red you can add comments after theirs. Eg "she has spoilt her teenage son ...in red you can type (this statement is very hurtful. I want to discuss this with you please)

Clarifying issues with other people is one of the best forms of lowering anxiety and depression.

The other aspect of is giving them the benefit of the doubt wher eits justified. For example- I'm bipolar 2. My mother has (undiagnosed but clear to me) BPD. I'd suggest that my sister and I have fragments of BPD in us. We havent bothered to seek officially if this is the case but the more they suspect you to have any other illness the better they can treat you. Having BPD isnt a problem imo IF you seek or continue treatment.

I hope you feel better.

TonyWK

[mocha delight]

Hi imarni first I’d like to say I’m so sorry to hear what your going through and second it sounds like you need one of these 🤗 times more then a million. I may not have experienced child sex abuse nor am I been officially diagnosed with anything yet but my psychologist has mentioned to me that I have depression (clinical depression), general anxiety and social anxiety. I also think I have a eating disorder (the binge eating disorder) and I also think back at my lowest weight years ago I had started to slip into the anorexic eating disorder way of thinking to. I am am angry with my psychologist as basically she forced my hand in a way into telling my mum about what a “red flag” moment to my mum on Thursday and to my gp on Friday when I had a appointment with my gp anyways as I felt if I didn’t she would of. And if you ever need to chat and only if you want to which is totally up to you just know I’m here for you ok.

[IreneM]

Hi Imarni

First of all Welcome!

Secondly, I can relate to you on a number of fronts:

- Bad Physician. Apart from Mental Illness I also have chronic issues and I had one specialist who doped me up once and nearly killed me, so I changed physicians and the replacement took me off nearly everything that the old one put me on which made me a new person.

- PTSD. I also have it originally from the Childhood Sexual Abuse, but there's been many other Traumatic events which have kept it going over the years, so now I use a few techniques like Grounding and Controlled Breathing along with Positive Thinking (which these forums certainly contribute to).

Thirdly Options. I certainly agree with Tony's suggestion above otherwise if you don't want to persist then in seeking another one, ask a few people around your area if they have a good doctor that they recommend. especially if they have similar health issues. I find this helps me when I need to find a new GP after moving to a new area. When speaking to reception, ask if they have a Doctor who specialises in Mental Health Wellness Plans, as well as Chronic Disease Management Plans. Some larger clinics have a nurse who does just these, and it helped me no end. Reading Google Reviews on the clinics and Doctors can also help you to decide.

Take Care

Irene.