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Struggling to go on

Tess2
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Life is being really hard for me and troubles keep compounding. I cannot face wading through what is needed to move forward I feel isolated and alone. I have people who care but I think they can be overloaded with my despair and it can be a burden. There seem to be obstacles all along the way.

Two years ago I lost my job. A career of 50 years. I am 66 and have no partner. I have not coped well with this loss and now have significant financial problems too. I have to sell my home. Pay off my mortgage and buy a new place. I live with my son who is very caring but I have suppported him financially and emotionally through the family court. His ex is trying to remove him from his daughters life. I feel I have reached my retirement years with very little and no joy. Depression has been a big part of my life. But I have managed. Now I also have severe anxiety. It paralyses me. And panic attacks. I don’t know how to do each day.

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Tess2
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Thank you Lee,

I know you have been doing it tough so your thoughts are very appreciated. I am ok , I have had a bad week with my son who has MH issues. This really stresses me out . I am trying really had to be more active and positive.

Tess

Birdy77
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Dear Tess,

I'm really sorry to hear you've had such a bad week. I hope the hassles with your son can soon calm down a bit, it must be very difficult for you to deal with that on top of other problems and not feeling on top of the world yourself.

It is good to hear that you are trying to be more active and positive, but as you advised me, don't try to tackle too much at once. Remember to go easy on yourself.

Take care Tess,

🌻birdy

Tess2
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi,

i don’t know what to say anymore, I am a shallow and hopeless person. I can’t see people have alienated my friends, my son and I fight every day everything has to be his way I a getting to hate him , yes I mean it every thing I say sets him off he screams at me , shows no love he is not a child but a 35 year old child man who has never grown up and I have facilitated this. I can’t face seeing him today.

I am trapped in my own home and I har it here

Birdy77
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Dear Tess,

It's absolutely ok if you don't know what to say.

Sometimes life feels just so awful, it seems like there's nothing to say.

But i am listening.

I would just like to point out that I think you are far from shallow or hopeless.

From the little I know of you, you show the opposite.

Someone who can read into the wisdom of Pooh and Piglet isn't shallow, but shows insight in my opinion.

Someone who has survived the troubles of your youth and your recent upheavals, to me, is someone who shows resilience and courage, not hopelessness.

I do not blame you for feeling completely overwhelmed about your 35 year old man-child son.

My partner's brother is exactly the same, he lives at the parent's house, his mother does his washing, pays his bills, puts up with him stealing money from them, seriously, I could go on for the entire character limit .... I have to see this man-child maybe 4 times a year, and each visit, after approximately, 4.5 seconds, I'm done. Want to go home.

I can only imagine how infuriating it is for you.

Sorry I don't have anything constructive for you.

But I hear you Tess.

🌻birdy

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Tess,

Im so very sorry sweety..

Im wondering if you can book into a motel , maybe your old neighbourhood and catch up with friends or somewhere nice and spend a few days their away from your son...or send him away for a few days....

You are definitely not shallow or hopeless.... you support a lot of people here, I’ve seen you around the forums giving hope to others.....

Please don’t be so hard on you dear Tess...be kind to you..as you are to me and others here..

Love and hugs dear Tess 💜💜🤗🤗

Grandy👼

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Tess2
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Thank you for your suggestios

I cannot leave my son. I cannot face going back to the other place or near it. I just want him to be the kind sweet person he used to be.

Lee lee 73
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hello dear Tess,

How are you going dear friend? Just checking in to see if you're going ok? I hope you are.

Sending you calming thoughts

Lee

Tess2
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Thank you Lee,

i am ok but struggling to find light in my day. I am going to take a break from here for a while as I feel a bit overwhelmed by everyone’s anxiety and sadness, at least that is how I see it

thank you for your support

tess

Tess2
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Is there anybody out there?

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Tess...

RUOK..?

Grandy