Over it at 41
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Hello Tomstar, welcome to the forum.
I'm sorry I've taken a little while to reply. My problem is I don't really know what to say, because my circumstances are so different. I'm never married, no kids, no full-time job to lose, no mortgage responsibilities, have been on a pension for a long time, so I don't even know what Centrelink may or may not offer you.... It all sounds very sard having to deal with so much.
I think I would prioritise the family relationship. How you & your wife relate to each other effects your kids. Relationships Australia would be a good place to start. I hope your wife would want to be involved in improving your relationship. When both parents are interested in working together, there is a greater possibility for a better relationship, which would benefit everyone.
I apologise for not having more to offer.
Please feel free to chat here anytime.
Im sorry you are feeling this way.
Have you tried to get access to your superannuation due to financial hardship?
Im sorry your relationship has suffered I understand this would be difficult.
Mental health conditions can be hard to deal with and we need to have the correct professional help to help us to manage them.
I hope that things begin to look up for you soon.