- Beyond Blue Forums
- Caring for myself and others
- Long-term support over the journey
- I'm really trying to feel better about myself
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Mark Topic as New
- Mark Topic as Read
- Pin this Topic for Current User
- Follow
- Printer Friendly Page
I'm really trying to feel better about myself
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
I don't know where to start with this, there's so much in my head right now...
I've got nothing, but my cat...no job, no friends, far from a family priority etc. etc.
My mum died 10 years ago on 26.2 and I still miss her so badly, she was the only person I had who was in my corner. Everyone else (family, friends that currently aren't talking to me) say I play the victim and am all "woe is me"
My sister's said I look like a silverback gorilla and other such things. She's a bully who gets away with it all, because she's the favourite and "normal" (kids, married, no mental illness - although I have doubts about that last one). My dad's called me fat and said that "You're bent like your mother" (she was bipolar). He lives with me and getting him to do anything is such a battle, he doesn't feel like paying the rent, so it's left to me, goes to work when he feels like it, helps my sister with her house but won't with me etc. etc. etc....I could go on and on with them!!
I have a GP and a psychologist that I should go back to (sessions are free and they're within walking distance), but I wonder if it's worth it when my psychologist said me running an instagram account for a celebrity is me living in fantasy land
I won't write any more, because I can't see anyone replying. I've got nothing and nobody and just want to forget...
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
Hi Narelle,
That's the spirit. Tomorrow is a new day and you may find all the extra work you have been doing around home gives you the extra energy you need.
You might find all that conversation with the contractors etc makes talking to other people easy.
It might feel great to be out and to achieve something that you know helps others, that always makes me happy.
I am hoping for a good day for you. Just remember if something does go wrong, practice breathing, in through your nose, hold for count of 4 and then out through your mouth.
I'll be thinking of you xx
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
I'm very tired again today, didn't fall asleep until around midnight and was up at 3-3:30, thanks to a certain furbaby...so it's going to be another long day...
I don't have to go in tomorrow, so I'm planning a bit of a lazy day already (and imagining coming home today!). I'm hoping I just have to re-adjust to doing this, so hopefully I won't be so exhausted next week.
I feel like I'm running on a flat battery right now. I saw the sloth video from zootopia that you mentioned in your thread, Carol and it's SO me this week!
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
Hi Narelle,
Just a thought, have you had your general health checked by a GP just in case there is something else contributing to your tiredness like low iron for example or thyroid issues? If not, maybe worth a general checkup?
You had mentioned your diet wasn't the best at one stage, so just a thought.
Hope today is good for you xx
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
Today was rubbish...you could say I got shamed for doing the wrong thing in front of the entire room. Someone else had to re-do my job from yesterday
I just felt squashable...I should have gone to the toilet and cried, but I didn't and the feeling hasn't gone - SO glad I'm home tomorrow!!
I feel like not going back but I have to now 😞
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
Hi Narelle,
That was a shocking way to treat you. Don't take it personally we all make mistakes and you were learning the ropes. It actually says a whole lot more about that person that gave a lecture and they level of maturity.
Not all workplaces like that and a lot of workplaces value good culture, which is is clearly this is not.
Don't let them get to you you're better than that!
x
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
I got a “we'll have a chat when you come back on Monday”, as I was walking out the door today. I was going to say something, but I left instead
I'm sitting in my car with it running, in tears...I'm actually amazed I held them in for as long as I did...
I want to send an email to find out what I've done wrong, because I can't wait until Monday. I'd rather have an email from my supervisor than talking in a room full of people
I really, really tried this week...
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
Oh sweetie you poor thing, hugs.
Wish I could dry your tears for you, let it out sweetie, better out than in.
I hate waiting too and it's a bit mean of them to make you wait until Monday. They really need to pick up their game around managing staff, good grief public humiliations, giving you news like I'll talk to you on Monday, in the places I have worked this would absolutely not be allowed! So culturally damaging and insensitive.
Do you want to talk about what happened, no pressure you know we wont judge?
Don't let this get to you, kit's not worth it. You went there and did your best, that's it, that's all you can do.
This weekend you need to be really busy and try (I know it's hard) to put this at the back of your mind. What sort of things can you do that will take concentration and be interesting?
Please give yourself credit for going to the job, staying and driving the car, they were big baby steps. You have been doing so well and are getting it together your mum would be so proud of you. Do you talk / write to her sometimes to let her know how you are going, it might help to get it out.
More hugs, xx
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
Hi Narelle,
I'm so sorry that happened to you. If the Manager tries to speak to you in front of people on Monday, ask her politely to go somewhere private to talk. If she questions this advise her that it's not appropriate to have performance discussions in front of other staff.
You should be proud of yourself for trying hard. I try to see any feedback as an opportunity to improve. It's just horrid the way it was done. Hopefully she will act more professionally on Monday and you can resolve any issues.
I hope you can find things to distract you on the weekend. Try not to let this set you back on all the wonderful progress you have made lately.
I have faith in you Narelle. Try to turn the negatives thoughts into positives.
Kind thoughts,
Carol xx
- Mark as New
- Follow Post
- Mute
- Subscribe to RSS Feed
- Permalink
- Report Post
Well, it seems I am an idiot...I got an email today, the chat was just to see how I'm going and to let me know that things won't always be so busy
So, I went and over reacted yet again. At least I know now
