I can't find the right place for me to post

[Moonstruck]

I don't know any more where to put a new thread if I make one, or which ones to join in. I always used Anxiety because that is my major condition but that has been relatively under control lately - I feel Depressed today - but I don't qualify for the topics there either. I'm depressed mainly because there doesn't seem a place for me. I love some of the threads and personal thoughts for example in Staying Well, but I can't join in there, because I don't have any tips for Staying Well.

I tend to have almost paranoid thoughts through over-thinking "problems" that I would like to talk over but don't know where to talk them over before they reach the paranoid stage...I want to avoid that. I join in the Social threads saying light hearted jokey things because thats the only place I seem to belong.

I dwell on any problems my adult sons have in various aspects of their life and want to "fix things for them" - our relationship is very loving and close though - they are wonderful to me - so there is no real "problem" with my relationship with them....so I don't seem to belong in the "relationships, family" section either do I?

I worry about them all the time - when I tried to express this on forum I think it was misconstrued that I had "empty nest syndrome" - trying to adapt to my sons' leaving home....No, that's not it...they've been gone for years and years...I am a grandmother.

I liked the Getting to Know You, or is it Me? thread very much - but have been given suggestions how to start my own thread and what section to use etc and get the feeling I'm being steered away from there too.

So I am still confused. I don't feel particularly anxious today, so this shouldn't even be in Anxiety! Do you see my dilemma?

In fact the more I write the more I feel like crying - I don't know where to go next.

[quirkywords]

“I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read in the train”.
there are so many great quotations. 

[Croix]

In hte same vein:

Lady Bracknell: ‘35 is a very attractive age. London society is full of women of the very highest birth who have, of their own free choice, remained 35 for years.’

-C

[Moonstruck]

Yeah yeah.....you know it too don't you Croix?   This is a good one too..in fact, Earnest is full of some of his best.

[Moonstruck]

I just want to put down how I feel lately if that's OK.   I used to enjoy watching the TV morning shows, always had them in the background to hear the news, current affairs, up to date articles on individuals etc.....Now I've noticed I turn it all on less and much less.  Not a conscious decision but think the reason is.....the world is so full of bad, tragic, horrible, heartrbreaking events.....all too much!  Wars, decent people with nowhere to live....they're in tents in our parks, under bridges, on streets, more and more of our fellow Australians......imagine working full time and living like this!! 

They are not all jobless and bludgers....they're decent humans, they lose their jobs because they cannot possibly live like this and do a proper job! .and I am not even going to give an opinion on The Voice except to say  how more divided our country is now,  100 times worse since this topic is being debated, while kids are being abused physically and sexuallly,and other atrocities as shown clearly on a recent TV doco on Alice Springs! 

it's all bad news, bad news, stupid politicians,,,,,,spending millions on the Games while people have nowhere to live....cannot afford rising prices, or to pay mortgages......what is happening to our world?

sorry but I can see no beauty any more, no joy,nothing uplifting  or faith restoring in "anything".......

do we really have free speech?   Of course not.  someone might get "offended".   it's a ghastly ugly world, even in our own Australia!

[quirkywords]

Moon

This line is sad 

sorry but I can see no beauty any more, no joy,nothing uplifting  or faith restoring in "anything"........

i feel like that sometimes .

I would say sometimes because I see joy in my grandchildren, I see beauty in flowers.

i don’t watch news, I gave that up ages ago. 

[Paw Prints]

Hello Moon.

Of course it's ok to truly say how you feel. I also am watching far less news than I used too. I struggle to understand how they can spend so many millions on sport stadiums when people are going hungry & homeless. As a country we used to be proud of our social housing & the support we provided to those struggling, it wasn't until the 80s that we started hearing phrases like dole bludger & it has just gotten worse over the years. I try to focus on the young ones coming up, so many are passionate about building a better/kinder world. Those stories are out there, unfortunately we have to hunt for them amongst all the rubbish.

Hugs

Paws

[mmMekitty]

Hi Moon,

I'm sorry the way the world looks is so terrible, especially according to the news we are shown on TV. (I suppose it's no different via online sources). It's soskewed toward the worst they can fine. Even knowing that does not mean these worst things aren't happening & effecting real people. It all gets too much, very overwhelming & the feelings that, for me, arise are of how unfair things are, how I can't help all that much, not if I was to give every cent I have to a charity, in the hopes they have resources to help & will put my money to good use.... tomorrow there will be more.

So, to keep from being dragged down into depression about it, I have to not watch all the news. If I see a story once or twice, I don't want to see more. Those repetitions seem only to form a bigger terrible thing in my mind.

About free speech: we are not the USA where they have 'free speech' written into their constitution. Even so, I think if people want to say whatever. they ought to take into account how their words may affect people hearing them. Even here, I appreciate how we need to be mindful about how we speak to eachother & about how we refer to people who may well be reading... we must be mindful because we know very well what it is to feel vulnerable & sensitive to how others see us. so, yeah, freedom of speech, with mindful responsibility & respect.

& I think 'The Voice' has highlighted some of the various ways people feel. There are more people talking & thinking more about the topic & what it would all mean. Personally, I welcome the discussion I've heard. I feel I've been learning more & more.

It's not a bad idia to take time away from the news, & take in more of your local neighbourhood. You still may come across some of your community's problems. If you want to push back a little, maybe find a way to help, locally.

Hugzies

mmMekitty

[CMF]

I agree dear Moon 

I stopped watching the news years ago due to anxiety but  started again a while ago. I'm going to stop again. It is miserable,  designed to put fear & doubt into us.

No more for me.

Cmf

[Croix]

Dear Moon, Quirky, Paw, MK and CMF~

Yes the news is horrible, it is slated to the sensational and all that is the very worst humidity can produce - plus sport which is often I suspect a way of distraction.

It all acts like a giant filter keeping out nearly all that is good and hopeful and leaving in those things one person cannot alter.

So why watch? To be shown an unending stream of matter that needs rectifying but one is helpless to do anything about will diminish the soul over time leaving one feeling powerless, depressed and diminished.

People do have power, while individually it is not on the same scale. I look at it as being a sphere around myself (only a small sphere I'm afraid:( where I might make things a little better, with love, friendship, kindness, charity and sensible priorities (which does not include new stadiums).

I almost forgot -humor has to be there too giving the soul a lift and momentarily reaching beyond the mundane world.

One must not forget pets who give so much to so many.

You are friends and try your (feeble:) humor on my iceberg. It is a delight to read.

Croix

[Moonstruck]

Dear friends.....I just posted on Croix' thread which explains how I am and how things are going....just haven't got the emotional or mental energy to write it all again on here......love to all...xx