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I can't find the right place for me to post

Moonstruck
Community Member

I don't know any more where to put a new thread if I make one, or which ones to join in. I always used Anxiety because that is my major condition but that has been relatively under control lately - I feel Depressed today - but I don't qualify for the topics there either. I'm depressed mainly because there doesn't seem a place for me. I love some of the threads and personal thoughts for example in Staying Well, but I can't join in there, because I don't have any tips for Staying Well.

I tend to have almost paranoid thoughts through over-thinking "problems" that I would like to talk over but don't know where to talk them over before they reach the paranoid stage...I want to avoid that. I join in the Social threads saying light hearted jokey things because thats the only place I seem to belong.

I dwell on any problems my adult sons have in various aspects of their life and want to "fix things for them" - our relationship is very loving and close though - they are wonderful to me - so there is no real "problem" with my relationship with them....so I don't seem to belong in the "relationships, family" section either do I?

I worry about them all the time - when I tried to express this on forum I think it was misconstrued that I had "empty nest syndrome" - trying to adapt to my sons' leaving home....No, that's not it...they've been gone for years and years...I am a grandmother.

I liked the Getting to Know You, or is it Me? thread very much - but have been given suggestions how to start my own thread and what section to use etc and get the feeling I'm being steered away from there too.

So I am still confused. I don't feel particularly anxious today, so this shouldn't even be in Anxiety! Do you see my dilemma?

In fact the more I write the more I feel like crying - I don't know where to go next.

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Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Moon (wiht a wave to CMF and all)~

I'm very happy to read you have expanded your horizons, that there are more parts of the world you can go to, places you though were beyond your reach without familiar support. That's great!

 

On guilt -perhaps if you envisage your son's mind, and that of your very close friend that passed away, you might realise they would earnestly wish you to be happy and have a full life. If you want a reason as Paws says it is good for you and makes you more able to love and assist.

 

With those peple that had helped in the past and have now faded away, perhaps at the time they gave all they had to give, and are simply human. It is rare to find someone who sticks with you through thick and thin, like you do for your son. You are finding new friends at the moment.

 

Rather than find you a quote that fits in, have one ot change the mood:-

"I cannot eat muffins in an agitated manner. The butter would probably get on my cuffs. One should always eat muffins quite calmly. It is the only way to eat them."

Croix

 

Moonstruck
Community Member

 

 

It really doesn't matter about the muffins dear boy....I had a crumpet with Lady Harbury"

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Well, as there were no cucumber sandwiches I guess that's all that was left

-C (who is rather long in the tooth to be  a 'dear boy':)

Moonstruck
Community Member

You seem quite familiar with O W's masterpiece!   How refreshing......

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

I thought it was cucumber sandwiches which were refreshing

-C

Moonstruck
Community Member

There were none at the greengrocer's this morning Lord Croix.

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear Moon and All~

We seem to be getting back in the swing quoting OW, may I ask what is your favorite quote? Mine is

 

Lady Bracknell: “To lose one parent, Mr. Worthing, may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose both looks like carelessness.

It takes a tried and true saying and applies it so out of contest as to be unbelievably inappropriate -all delivered in a regal manner.

Delightful

 

Croix

 

mmMekitty
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

That one sure is a beauty, Croix. It's one which make me laugh whenever I hear it.

 

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

A bit like "A well-behaved mmMekitty"

 

-C

 

Moonstruck
Community Member

My favourite?  Mmmm...I reckon most of his most famous and best ones were from the same stage play...like your last one was..they're so good its almost impossible to pick my favorite.....

"all women grow up to be like their mothers......that's their misfortune..

no man ever does....that's his"

"I don't think a woman should ever reveal her true age...it seems so calculating"

"when a young man marries, it is my opinion that he should either know everything....or nothing"...  { Croix the character you mentioned is very close to my heart...I think you guessed that already, you sly old fox}.....

What gave me away?