Hi Grandy
Comfort food is a short-term go-to, like putting on a band aid, trying to cover up some feelings, or to mitigate them in some way, but often leaves us feeling worse for having reached for the comfort food.
Hard as it is, I think it's good to acknowledge your feelings. At this time these are your feelings. No need to justify them or excuse them, just accept this is where you are at now. You can have a cry, yell or kick a cushion, whatever helps you express these feelings.
You've got two shoulders & arms not functioning, yet you expect yourself to be more active, doing what you usually would do? That seems a little unfair to expect of yourself.
I don't know what your hair is like, but I can tell you about mine. I've got fine hair, no fullness & was never a rich colour either.
Now, I'm on a med I must have for another 9 years, which seems to be causing more hair to fall out. or it's that I'm aging. My hair was breaking easily before & looked ragged. I realised it wouldn't grow long like I wanted.
so, I've had to accept having shorter hair. It's still gets ragged. It's greying, but seems more like silver, so that's okay. As it thins, I'm wondering if I'll have my "old lady's" grey hair before it all falls out. That's how it seems.
I feel cheated. I can't see it much. I always wondered what it would be like when I was old, because I had not known what my mother's hair was like as she aged, & my father was bald early. Now it's falling out, & my eyesight is so bad.
Nothing to do for it but accept.
When I returned home from surgery in Jan 2021, I couldn't reach to wash & comb my hair. I needed help with that. It was one of the more difficult things to have to accept.
Fortunately, one of my support workers was a kind & very compassionate soul, & I trusted her. Still, I felt self-conscious & embarrassed. I said to myself, okay, this is how I feel, & let her know. She was great, gentle & understanding. Even so, I thought it would be easier if my hair was shorter. She helped me with that too.
When I could reach enough with one arm, I was relieved & thrilled about having made some obvious progress in my recovery.
I feel embarrassed about all my hair in the carpet. My home help support workers don't fuss over it. Nevertheless, I'm tempted to cut my hair shorter.
I'll take a year to use a bottle of shampoo!
Hugzies
mmMekitty
