Was Widowed 1994 [Trigger Warning: sexual abuse]

[widowed1994]

Hi all,

In 1994, I was widowed when my then wife had breast cancer. 6 mths later my then girlfriend found out that my 6yo daughter had been molested by a friend of my late wife who was living with us. For at least 3 mths after, I experienced what I call Emotional Tsunamis; experiencing an interchanging wide range of emotions on a daily basis (at extreme levels). I never had any counselling as it wasn't available in my town or area back then, although I wrote heaps of poetry and later music to try and release pent up emotions. Though I happily remarried in 1997 (still going strong), to this day, I get easily irritated by things or situations not going right, or not working. With people I am fine and couldn't be more patient and accepting.

Is this irritation (and it can cause me to complain, curse and sometimes swear) a hangover from 1994? How do I deal with it as it sometimes irritates those around me?

[white knight]

Hi and welcome

I think you could do with some counseling for sure as it helped me back in 1987 and I still refer to what I was taught way back then, those moments when you weren't taught when young what to say or do. Cognitive deficiency.

But I'd like to list a few threads that could help. Use google

Beyondblue topic running around trying to save the world

Beyondblue topic worry worry worry

Beyondblue topic the frog and the scorpion

Beyondblue topic who cries over spilt milk?

There are thousands more. Repost anytime

TonyWK