sudden loss of mum to pancreatic cancer

[Nelonimus12]

Hi this is the first time I've ever done this. I experienced a lot of grief and loss in the first year after my mum passed. special dates still trigger loss - my question for people - has anyone experienced any delayed anxiety symptoms after they started to feel like they were managing the grief stuff and getting on with life. It's not like I don't still miss my mum, I do every day. But I'm not emotionally crashing - however I am having bizarre symptoms like facial tingling, headaches and fatigue which I am being told is a delayed anxiety reaction to my anxiety/grief from last year? Has anyone else been experienced this?

[quirkywords]

Nelonimus,

Welcome to the forum.

I am so sorry about your mum and extend my sympathy to you.

rief is so unpredictable and surprising. I was in the supermarket about 6 months after my mum died and I hadn't really cried and I just saw the ice cream cabinet and I started to shake and cry and feel totally disoriented. So embarassing and weird.

If you can be aware of the symptoms and see if there is any trigger or pattern I used to feel quite faint as well.

I found talking to a grief counsellor very helpful. Would you consider that?

There are also support groups for people who are experiencing grief.

Thanks again for reaching out, and you will see you are not alone.

Quirky

[IreneM]

Yes Nelonimus

I, too, am sorry about your Mum and I was the same way for many years after my mother died and I still have my times around the anniversary of her death most years. But if you can find the good things to remember her by which I do now, and try to focus on that as a special way to pay your respects if you still need to.

Like you I also am no longer emotional like I was and I still have a cry to let my feelings go every so often. I just try to think of things that my Mum did that have had a good impact on me and have helped me to become who I am. Try to focus on the good memories. Not easy but it is worth it.

Irene.

[Ruby__2]

Welcome to the forums!

Everyone who has reached a certain age can relate to your feeling of loss.

My dad died 36yrs ago.Not a day passes that I don't think of him.My mum died 15yrs ago and I still get triggered by dates etc.Grief is the price we pay for loving someone.

Remember you are not alone in what you are experiencing. We all go through this at some point.

I have certain triggers-smells,songs etc. I also believe my Mum and Dad would not want me to "flog a dead horse" so to speak.It is was it is.A part of life.

I want to reassure you that you wi)l and are allowed to enjoy lo life.

Best thoughts xx

Ruby2

is.Bask in the knowledge that your parents loved you.

[geoff]

Hello Nelonimus, welcome.

I am sorry for the loss of your mum who was so important and special in your life, who you thought would always be there for you.

She was someone you could turn to for comfort and support where any decisions had to be made, and any special times of the year, remind you of who you have lost which could relate to the name of the thread.

I mean no harm by saying this and excuse me if I have upset you.

Best wishes.

Geoff.