Sudden death of a parent at a young age

[Mg1986]

We found my mum passed away on Christmas Day 2014, cause still unknown. On top of it, my brother and I are looking after everything as mum was divorced a year before this after 35 years of marriage. I wish I got time to say a proper good bye, the shock has been intense. This is on top of various family issues.

 I want to try and make sure that everyone makes the most of time with their loved ones. This grief is unbelievable especially with the sudden and unexpected circumstances. There's a big hole in my life and I know it'll get better. I'm very fortunate to have beautiful friends and colleagues. I don't know how I'd have survived without these people.

One strange thing is, the very little information on grieving when this happens (direct contact) I'm still waiting nearly 3 months later for counselling via the coroners court, although I ended up sourcing out my own.

I now cry every time I see a news article on accidents, or sudden deaths, feeling for the family that weren't able to tell the deceased how they feel. I feel for those family members and friends so much.

[JessF]

Hello Mg, I lost my father on Boxing Day nearly 20 years ago now. There was no indication that he was unwell beforehand, he just suddenly fell ill and we took him to the doctors. Much to our surprise, they took him to hospital. Mum was still at home packing an overnight bag when they rang to tell us to hurry to the hospital because he'd taken a turn, and he was gone by the time we arrived.

The shock of it all does leave you reeling. I can look back now and appreciate all the great times we did have together, but at the time... life doesn't have a neat resolution, unfortunately. We know not the day nor the hour.