My partner and Mother passed away 3 months apart

[Paul1478]

It happened 5 years ago, Toughest year of my life. My male partner of 9 years passed away in a car accident

It destroyed me utterly. I kind of was dealing, Then MUM had a stroke 3 months later and died in the night.

I lost it, spiraled out of control did not care anymore, I still feel lost, Just Existing not living

[Paul1478]

I was living in country WA then, 4 years ago, I packed up my house and moved to Perth, I moved in with family, started working, BUT I still felt lost.

As time moved on, I did not,! still hanging on to the past. Unsure what to do next! Grrr.

[Paul1478]

I thought if I left the country town, yean I would be happy.

No such luck, I am now in a funk! I hate that I am only working to pay off debts and bills, I am not exactly living .

So I turned to the bottle, helps me forget my current situation, but the next day It all floods back.

Not a good place to be ... yeah I know. So I am seeking help as of right now!

I just do not care anymore.

[Happygoluckymiss]

Hello Paul1478

I’m so very sorry and my condolences to you for the loss of your partner and Mum. I can’t imagine the grief and loss that you have experience I am ao sorry.

Thank you for sharing, I know that must of been hard. Please know that the BB community is very welcoming and helpful.

You mentioned it has been 5 years since you lost your partner and Mum, have you spoken to a professional or seen GP to speak about your loss and how you are feeling? I would encourage you to do this. I am one that bottles everything up and finds it difficult to speak with someone - but through courage and persistence- I did and it is a very welcome relief.

In the meantime if you are not ready to do this I find writing all my feelings down very helpful and calming.

My opinion is no amount of time can be put down when it comes to grief and loss. It is deeply personal.

Please speak with your GP first and maybe organise a mental health care plan with a psychologist.

i am sending big hugs to you

- happygoluckymiss

[Sophie_M]

Hi Paul, 

We're are sorry to hear about the loss of your partner and mother and understand that this must be a very difficult time for you. Please know we'd like to help through this. If you are at risk of self-harm or if you are feeling suicidal, we would strongly urge you to seek professional help as it is really important that you take immediate steps to keep yourself safe.

If you feel unable to keep yourself from acting on your thoughts about suicide or self-harm this is an emergency and you need to call 000 (triple zero).

We would strongly recommend giving our wonderful friends at Lifeline a call - 13 11 14, they can talk to you and help you through difficult moments.

We ask if you can please check in with us as we are concerned about you.