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Missing my little brother
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Hi.
My brother died 22 weeks ago tomorrow. I'm at work, and he normally would be too. We'd be sending each other messages and memes throughout the day during quiet periods - I'm a teacher-librarian, and he was a music teacher, and so proud of his students. He was 31, and I miss him so much.
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Hi, welcome
Grief is a process other people cannot help much with the process.
However some things that might help are-
- Remember how he would want you to live your life as calm and stable as possible
- Plant a tree or a rose garden in his honour
- Communicate with his students if you can to promote his legacy through you.
- Realise and recall often that all is ok, life will pick up eventually, it takes time and that time factor depends on the individual
- Life will always have these challenges, the older you get the more often it happens so some level of acceptance is desirable, that its all a process of life itself.
- Write! I write poetry and any form of writing can be very therapeutic.
- If you feel you are mentally not coping see you GP for some grief counselling.
My brother passed away at 26yo by his own hand. He was a teacher. I'm 68yo
I hope I've helped.
WATCHED THEM BLOOM
Life is full of lessons and sunshine
there's no better teacher than one of which you pine
to respect that leader, the one that guides the way
is forever etched in the minds of kids everyday
And their lesson is that we humans come and go
And they'll remember this as they grow
For love and care cannot be bought
He loved his family and those kids he taught...
We all should leave a legacy of who we are
Our individual stamp on mankind afar
To teach a child and watch them bloom
Is your brothers legacy ... gone too soon...
TonyWK
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Dear Lost37,
Your feelings are valid and missing him is the most intense pain and longing. 22 weeks isn’t really a long time when it comes to grief. And he is your brother. Where ever you are in your grief journey, I am wishing you well and thank you for your strength and courage to post about how you are feeling. Each persons experience of grief is unique, even within the same family or group of friends.Keep posting if it helps you in even a small way. It is very clear how much you love your brother. Love is a beautiful thing. Keep that love close to your heart.
From ABC01