Loss of grandchildren (through relocation)

[Oscar]

I have been (surrogate) grandmother to a friend's two sons (aged 3 and 2) and have seen them at least 3 times a week since they were born and they have been the highlight of my life.   I am 83.  Their parents have now decided to relocate from Perth to Melbourne (for housing and work reasons) so I will no longer see them.   I am heartbroken and cannot stop crying.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome 

What a beautiful soul you are. 

Grief has few remedies, we can only soften the effect by distraction. So I can only suggest consider flying over 3-4 times a year to visit. Also, engage in activities, fill up your diary... 

YOUR GIFT

As they moved away it's not the end of the matter

Hallway silent no pitter patter

Turmoil and laughter more of the latter

Mumbling words their little chatter

You offered your heart of gold

They learned your warmth low and behold

A granny gave them what cannot be sold

A gift from you a story's told....

TonyWK 

[Oscar]

Unfortunately, I am 83 with a minor heart condition so do not have the option of flying to see them.  I'm now feeling angry and abandoned.

[white knight]

I think you might need some clarification. eg did they relocate because of you? If not then there is no reason to be angry nor abandoned and you could follow up on a suggestion to relocate? If relocating near them isnt an option then there is little anyone can do for you with this problem and I'm sorry to let you down this way.

Is there anything you can think of that we can help you with?

TonyWK

[quirkywords]

Oscar I feel your pain . Those boys were part of your life. You say they are moving for work and housing  reasons which often happens. Can you video chat the two boys. Maybe the boys parents will come and visit their friends in Perth.

i understand you feel abandoned . Is the relocal preschool etc where you read to children etc. 

You are nit stone and we are listening. 
is it possible to explain to the parents how the boys mean to me and see if they have any ideas of keeping in touch.