Loss of daughter to lung cancer

[Miss74]

Hi im new here and currently feeling very lost..Tomorrow (31/3/19) will be my daughters birthday...Its her 3rd birthday since i lost her but it never gets any easier..Tonight im dreading how im gonna get through my day i try to be positive but i seem to loose control and that feeling of wanting to be with her takes over..Please if anyone has some tips on how i can make the day easier would be greatfully appreciated i know grief affects everyone diffrent but im really struggling and looking for help...Thank you

[geoff]

Hello Miss, my deepest sympathy to you and I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter.

It must be so difficult to prepare yourself for the birthday of your daughter, well before, on the day and even after her birthday, and there will be tears, comforting words from your family and your friends but the grief and disappointment of how you feel.

If you want to find a way to honour her but don't feel up to doing anything big, you could choose something to do either by yourself or with a few friends.

Do you know someone who can draw what she would look like today, this may give you some peace, and try to get it done every year.

My sincere condolences.

Geoff.

[Miss74]

Hi Geoff..thank you for your idea of a drawing sadly i dont know anyone that can draw but it is something to keep in mind..

[quirkywords]

I also extend to you my sincere condolences, Miss74. I am thinking of you on this sad day for you.

The anniversary of a birthday of a child who has died is so difficult. A friend planted a tree or plant for every anniversary of her daughter and in the end has a little peaceful garden. Maybe just one plant that you look after.

I knew someone who would write a letter or card for what would have been her child's birthday and write about what they would have been like at that age.

I realise this is hard and maybe my suggestions are not helpful as everyone is different.

My thoughts are with you today.

Quirky

[demonblaster]

Hi Miss 74 ☺

My heartfelt deepest sympathy to you. I don't know if you're a hugger but if you are 🤗

What good ideas Geoff and Quirky have suggested.

You might do this anyway I wonder if you go somewhere special and talk to her. It's in my opinion ok to say how much you're hurting, it's because of your beautiful love that continues

Maybe you could hold your hand while doing this to feel a connection. I'm not being silly I've been doing this lately, touch is important.

Another thought is to maybe write your feelings down which can help shed some of the pain.

Darlin 3 yrs is still fresh in heavy grieving. I sincerely hope for you that in time your intense pain eases and is replaced with the beautiful memories you have and shared together

Some one said something so incredibly comforting when I had a very significant loss

The gist was... love stays, so she'll always be with you Miss74.

Wishing you warmth and comfort ⚘

Please when ever you need to talk feel free to ☺