Dear BeyonceBooty
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your
brother. Feb this year is still very fresh and all the feelings and days would
be still extremely raw for you.
I lost my brother in a drowning accident in 1991,
and it still affects me - I guess cause I was with him at the time.
But for me, the things I did, in particular on the
day of his death was to get out some of his favourite
music and play that. I also cracked a few beers as the time came towards the
actual time of his death - it was mid-arve - and so I
would have his music on and drink to my mate.
I don't live near where he's buried, but I know my
mum would go out to the cemetery on his birthday as well and put flowers down
etc.
Perhaps your brother had a favourite place he
might have liked to go, a coffee shop or a restaurant - if so, perhaps a few of
you could go along and have a quiet meal or coffee together.
The only downside of doing something like that is
that you're out in the open and it's not a private moment.
I do hope I've been able to give you something
that may assist - or that I've said something that might trigger an idea for
you.
But speaking from personal experience, it's going
to be very tough - emotional and I hope that you have other support for you as
well.
Speaking on that, if you feel that you've got
things you'd like to unload with or just to ask any questions, etc, there are
amazing people on here with experience and knowledge who can reply to you. But
on here, above all else, it's just a wonderful supportive
network/community.
I do hope you can get back to us.
Kind regards
Neil
