Cancer loss

[Geeman]

Hi All,

I've just lost my Mum to cancer 😞 . She was only 64- way too young. She meant the world to me and so many others. I'm really struggling at the moment. I'm trying not to be grumpy with my wonderful kids, but feel it a lot of the time.

I also run my own business in the construction industry, and there isn't room for much time off due to project demands etc. I'm feeling both anxious to return to work, but kind of keen to bring the normality back at the same time.

I'm thinking maybe a local support group might be good for me, but don't really know what to look for.

Any feedback/ suggestions would be really appreciated.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Geeman,

Welcome to the forums. I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your mum.

There are lots of different support groups in Australia - often you can find them through the local cancer council website for your state, or an organisation specific to the type of cancer your mum had - like breast cancer/ovarian cancer etc.

If you let us know some of that info, I might be able to find something more specific. The Cancer Council helpline also has a big directory of these services, and you can call them on 13 11 20.

Hope this helps,

[LV12]

Hi Geeman,

I am sorry for your loss. I wanted to reach out to offer support. I lost my father to pancreatic cancer 4 years ago age 60, I understand it is a very hard time. It is so great that you are reaching out to people.

I am happy to talk through feelings and listen. It is nice to speak to people who have been through the same thing and come out the other side. Whilst it does not get easier, you learn how to manage and move forward with grief.

I found it very difficult to get the images of my father out of my head when he was so sick. I had a picture of him healthy - when he had a lot more meat on him 🙂 - on my phone and by my bedside so I could look at this every day to remove the painful images out of my head and remember the positive times. It really helped.

I hope you are taking care of yourself and feeling all the emotions that you need to feel to allow yourself to grieve. It is a very hard time and I am sending you positive and healing energy.