Where to go for help?

SRB · ‎03-07-2020

I am lost as to where I can go to get help.

I have found it very difficult to see a GP in my area. I have been to a number of psychology services, that I have engaged personally and a through my employers wellbeing service and found these of no value, in fact found them to make me feel worse.

I am full time employed and changes that are occurring at work are creating challenging environment as I personally don't agree with some of the changes and if I am open about my opinion I am judged and feel verbally harassed. I am not wanting to go to work anymore but have nothing else to fall back on. Talking to colleagues and my manager is not an option.

I live alone and don't have a huge social network and I find it very difficult to get motivation to get out and about.

Whilst I have the worst thoughts, I don't consider myself a high risk of suicide as I also reflect on what suicide will mean to family and the impact it will have on others who know me.

I am looking for what has worked for others that have found them selves lost and the normal help services not working for you.

jess334 · ‎06-07-2020

Hi SRB,

Welcome to the forum.

I understand feeling like psychology isn't helpful. I find it useful to talk to someone in the beginning, but after a few sessions if I don't start to feel better then I start to feel worse about myself. I also struggle to tell them everything because how can you trust someone who you just met?!

I do think there is value in seeing a psychologist, but it is important that they are interested in the right type of therapy. For example when I was a teen they taught me cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) which is about trying to make your brain change the way it thinks. That didn't work for me at all! But when I was older I started doing some research on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) which works much better for me. Its more about accepting your thoughts and then letting go of them without attaching to them.

Medication can also be helpful. After my son was born I struggled with post natal depression for 18 months before I agreed to try medication again. Now I feel so much better.

Kind thoughts, Jess