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Waves of depression

Bendad
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi everyone,

My name is Benjamin. I'am new to these forums and would appreciate some help in understanding depression.

I was recently diagnosed with depression and anxiety. Though i believe i have lived with it for years. Gradually it got more severe until i had to reach out. One thing i have noticed is it affects me in waves, which have also gradually become more rapid over time. One day i would feel very low and would believe i cant cope, i cant go on. The next day facing the same problems as yesterday i would feel confident i could get through life, it wont be difficult and i can handle it. The day after low and losing all hope.

In the present these waves can occur several times in the one day. Or disappear for days at a time returning with extremity. It plays havoc on my life and personality.

What i would like to know is why the waves? And is there anybody else who gets waves like this and have they any tips on dealing with them? I hope one day to experience smooth sailing and not these rough seas. 

4 Replies 4

White_Rose
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Dear Benjamin

Hello and welcome to Beyond Blue.

First of all I suggest you browse this site. Go to the top of the page and explore the blue tabs. BB has a huge amount of information on depression and anxiety. This is available to download or send for hard copies. I think you will find this very useful.

May I ask, have you been prescribed any antidepressant medication. Sometimes these waves can be the result of meds starting to work. Generally they take a couple of weeks to become noticeable and up to six weeks to be fully working. That's one possibility.

The other is, as you have suggested, that this is how depression works. As John Denver sang, Some days are diamonds, Some days are stone. To some extent we experience this as part of normal life, good days, bad days, days when staying in bed would have been better than getting up. You know how it goes. Depression makes it more obvious and worse because it can fool us into thinking we will have the bad days for the rest of our lives.

Did you discuss these waves with your doctor or whoever gave you the diagnosis? If you are going to see your doctor soon, or a psychologist if you have been referred to one, then it would be a good idea to talk about these moods. Not being a doctor I cannot give you a definitive answer about your depression. I can say I have days when I get up feeling pretty ordinary and this changes as the day goes on and I feel far more confident about everything. And I can be like that for some time before falling down the hole again.

I am now taking a new AD which is helping my moods to become even, not erratic. So in answer to your questions. Yes your moods can vary from day to day and during the day. Yes, many people experience depression in this fashion.

Diet plays a huge part in this. No need for special diets, just a good diet, with plenty of the goodies all doctors and dieticians tell you. Not huge amounts of meat, lots of vegetables and fruit, some carbohydrates and dairy. No need to give up tea and coffee, but try to drink lots of water. Also exercise. This has been shown to have good effect on your body and brain by releasing endorphins into your body. Makes you feel good. You may like to notice your moods in relation to what you have eaten and how much exercise you do.

Read the information BB has and write in again.

Mary

chociloni
Community Member
it comes in waves as you dont know yourself / how to deal with it properly yet...once you get the hang of it you'll be better. 

Carmen_Lisa
Community Member

Hi there. Welcome. Friends here. 

I think waves are normal for life. Highs and lows. I think maybe with depression they dump you around and swallow you up and it feels like drowning. Maybe someone without depression has a surf board. I don't think we can ever expect life to be smooth sailing, but we can become better at surfing. 

At the moment, my waves are drowning my confidence. I don't feel like I have enough air to swim and climb back on my board. I want to blame someone or something, but I guess it is how it is. 

All the best with your treatment. I hope you find helpful people. 

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hi Benjamin, even when someone is not depressed then their moods do fluctuate during the day, but when you have depression then it feels much more serious only because these thoughts weigh a great deal on our minds and are always about negative thinking, so there is a difference and a strong diffence that does play heavily on our minds.
It's well and good to be on antidepressants (AD) but what you really need is a diagnosis from your doctor, however I would like you to look up 'bipolar' although I'm not saying that you may have it, that's something I can not do give you a diagnosis as I'm not qualified.
You can look under the facts at the top of the page and go through each type of illness then you might get a feeling of what you could have, because the more you know may help you understand why this is happening. Geoff.