Soo stupid but got me really upset

[Chloekat84]

Well my son took my phone while I was still asleep early this morning to play games and when I got up to find it it was lost and neither of us new where it was. I kept asking where was the last place u had it etc and he couldn't remember but then I prayed and prayed then found it behind a cushion near my laptop as my son said he left it near my computer. It was dead of course as I asked many friends to try ringing it. But its on charge now and im so happy its been found as I was soo depressed for a while when it was missing that I actually started crying. Even though ive found my phone im still in a state of shock and depression which im finding it hard to come out of. Ive been diagnosed with depression and anxiety anyways. Any suggestions to lift my spirits would be great 🙂

[Zeal]

Hi Chloe,

Having depression can make incidents like this seem so much worse. I had depression in my teen years, and understand the frustration. Talking to your GP regularly about your anxiety and depression is a great help.

This may seem like strange advice, but having a clean-up can be really rewarding and gratifying. I love being neat and tidy by nature, so this advice may not appeal to everyone! Having uncluttered physical surroundings can help give you a sense of control over your life. This can lessen anxiety, as you will be better able to find items you need, and you won't feel overwhelmed by possessions.

Uplifting things I do when I'm feeling anxious or "down" include:

1. Going for a walk around my neighbourhood
2. Reading (a good book can be a great distraction and comfort)
3. Talking to my Mum
4. Contacting a friend for a chat
5. Pettting my cat
6. Listening to upbeat music I love

 There are many other ways, but these are strategies I like to use 🙂

Good luck with everything. I hope you can find ways to cope with your anxiety and depression 🙂

[CrashCoyote]

Hi Chloekat84,

I do not suffer anxiety but have been in a long term relationship with someone that did/does. I know it used to help her when things weren't a surprise, that is, planned. So if I dropped by her work with a bunch of flowers as a surprise, she'd get anxious. If I rang and asked if I could take her out for lunch, she was fine.

Maybe if you pre plan some things that set you off it will help. Just saying is all.

I don't know how old your son is but depending on his age, maybe your options are to put it out of his reach when you sleep or tell him he cannot use it without asking first? Hopefully then he either won't know where it is or won't touch it until you wake up.

I know it isn't addressing the anxiety, I am just trying to prevent the scenario and hence the anxiety that follows.

Kind regards, John.

[Chloekat84]

Thanx for the advice guys my anxiety and depression has died down a lot now. My son is 7 and at a very sneaky age so I think I may need to put it out of his reach before I go to sleep tonight. Im tryin g to distract myself and watch things I enjoy etc.

[CrashCoyote]

You are welcome! Prevention is better than cure!

[Chloekat84]

That I agree with! Im letting him play games to keep him occupied during the day but im watching him very closely while he plays. Feeling a bit down today not sure why. I went to the local carols early evening yesterday but my son played up the whole time so didn't stay very long. Im finding it hard to cope with his behaviour as he may have adhd plus having my 2 year old as well is hard but shes in childcare today. Normally id have a nap now as I feel a bit stressed but cant while im looking after him. Ive got him on my own till the 26th dec and not sure how im going to cope and deal with him. Im trying to take it one day at a time but its hard 😞 I don't want to ring his dad as they will see im not coping and take him away so I never see him. I only see him half the school holidays as it is. Any input would be helpful.