over it

[MrsCam]

I know it is just a low phase and I will come out the other side, as I usually do, but I am so over it right now...not feeling too great physically which makes it worse, have been alternating between freezing cold & boiling hot all day... I wish I could just escape sometimes from myself and my life... I know its not the answer but it would be so damn easy and I think a relief to just be done... have another counselling session tomorrow and we have discussed this before, that I dont need to get too stressed about the low times as I know they will pass but still it is hard...just wanted to vent to someone who would understand, I dont have much of that in my world...

[Jo3]

Hi Mrs C

I can understand exactly what you're saying. Because I have had the same thoughts many times - just to escape from everything.

Take care, hope you're feeling better tomorrow

Jo

[luvkat888]

I FEEL YA!

I feel like I'm about to give u advice my councillor always gives me and i get frustrated about but when I do come out the end I'm like yeahhh she was right. Sounds like you actually know what I'm going to say but you need to hear it from someone else.

You will get out of it! YAY!..there's no point dwelling in that bad feeling. Say to yourself "I realise this is a low phase" then acknowledge that you feel sad about it and move on 🙂

I know its easier said then done but its worth a shot. It helps me alot! Low times make you appreciate the good times more and you should feel proud of yourself that you can actually get out of the low phases

[MrsCam]

thanks for your reply...

yeh at last weeks session we discussed this... I said to her I used to go into panic mode when Id been going along ok then the bad feelings would come back out of nowhere but now I know its just a phase and as I said in my original post I think this week it is more physical than mental.. 

I know I will be ok again... 

[--Danny--]

MrsCam, sounds like ur having a dirty day...I hope u feel better son mate..if u wanna have  a chat & vent your frustrations I'm here!!

[geoff]

dear Mrs, Cam, I had wondered why we hadn't heard from you, so please get back to us so we can have a chat, because something has gone wrong for you and when this happens it's never good for you. L Geoff. x

[AGrace]

Mrs Cam,

This is one of my favourite poems, written by an anonymous person while in a mental institute in QLD. I think  it expresses what we all need from time to time - just an ear.

Listen

When I ask you to listen to me

and you start giving advice, you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me

and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me

and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

Listen!

All I asked was that you listen, not talk or do, just hear me.

Advice is cheap:

25¢ will get you in the newspaper.

I can do for myself:

I’m not helpless. May be discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.

When you do something for me that I can do for myself,

you contribute to my fear and weakness.

But when you except as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel,

no matter how irrational, then I quit trying to convince you I can get about the business of understanding what’s behind this irrational feeling.

When that’s clear, the answers are obvious and I don’t need advice. Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what’s behind them.

So, please listen and just hear me, and, if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn: and I’ll listen to you.

AGrace

[BeeGee]

Beautiful - and perfect.

We're listening.

[Neil_1]

Dear Mrs C

Hello there. Wonderful to hear from you again.  And as Geoff said, you have been a bit quiet on the old B.B. site over recent times and I guess when that happens, one thing that springs to mind, is that our dear person isn’t perhaps feeling overly flash.  And this be quite true.

Just a quick digression to welcome LuvKat to the site and way to go for providing support for your first post.   I hope that you can create your own thread soon and we can get to know and assist you as best we can?

Those feelings Mrs C of the extremes in temp are never a good thing – and usually it’s a lead up to some sort of bug, virus or flu, yeah??  Not sure how you are today (Thursday), but I hope that whatever it was has passed and didn’t take hold.   There’s two real bad things that spring to mind when you’re suffering badly with mental health and that is:  (a) you come down with some sort of virus, physical sickness  or  (b)  you become injured.   Either of these things can play merry hell with how we travel with mental health during these times.

Mrs C, I’m probably going to say stuff here that you already know, but here goes anyway. Try to eat pretty regularly, not big amounts and make it clean, healthy eating.      Water – try to drink lots of water – or if not a fan of water, some kind of mineral water or cups of green tea/herbal tea – keep the body hydrated appropriately.    A small walk outside if you can – and stop and notice things like trees, plants – birds, other animals – even the shapes or formations of clouds. 

In the kitchen, something that stresses me is a dirty kitchen – but something that helps me on the flip side is a clean kitchen.  Yes, it can take some effort.  But I don’t look at it all in one go.  I start from the very end of the kitchen bench and work my way along.  Dishwasherable stuff into the dishwasher, rubbish into the bin, items for the pantry, into the pantry – you get the picture?

Then non-dishwasher stuff, get the sink with some good hot suddzy water and get to scrubbing/cleaning and just put them on the drying rack – then give the bench a good wipe down.  Satisfied that things look 100% better.   Go into another room for a bit and then walk back into the kitchen and look.  I do this and it fills me with a really nice feeling.  But you can’t stay in the other room for too long cause there’s some magical force about a kitchen that never lends itself to staying in that pristine condition for too long.

Kind regards

Neil

[MrsCam]

Hi all thanks for your responses

Had my counselling this afternoon, cried my eyes out and talked about how I just want it all to stop... my counsellor called the medical centre here in our little town and got me an appointment with my gp for next thursday which is something of a miracle as it usually takes weeks to get in with him.... have considered flying down to perth and checking myself into a private facility there tho dont know what hubby would say about that... my counsellor gave me a reccomendation and I have just sent an email to them enquiring on the whole process.... dont know what Im going to do yet but this feeling better for a bit then hitting rock bottom again with no warning is really getting too much for me... this morning I wanted to just end it all and I havent felt like that in a long time....