Dear Carom,
As has already been posted, I too would like to welcome you to Beyond Blue and to thank you so much for providing your post. You’ve received a couple of really wonderful posts and I also agree with Lost Girl’s post to you … in seeking out professional help now to help you on positive road.
The couple’s counselling sounds like a very good thing as well and I do hope that this is being met with some good results and positive thoughts, as well as different approaches you can make to get that ‘fire’ sparking up again. It never has to be anything major, just little things can make a huge difference.
With all things, especially for our depression, the activity of setting little goals is a good way to approach things. Make them little and achievable goals – so that when you complete them you feel good … you feel good that you’ve achieved and accomplished something.
I refer it back to wanting to climb a mountain or at least, a large hill – you don’t go out and tackle it straight up without any training. You firstly go and get to a certain height or place – an achievement, not huge, just small, but still achieved. You then head back down. Job well done; then the next time, you might just go a little further and tick off another goal achieved. All the while, you’re building up your stamina to get further the next time.
That’s a bit like with depression. Setting little goals in being able to do things through a day; it could be tidying up the home, doing the dishes, or the washing. It could be just being able to get to work; or even could be just being able to get out of bed or to have a shower. It’s totally up to you as to which goals you’d like to set.
These are the other things that you can set in place, as well as getting appropriate counselling; and possibly the taking of medication(s) if your GP deems it to be helpful.
Hope this has helped somewhat and not got you too confused by my ramblings.
Neil
