My life feels like it's over

[Stressed Guy]

I feel like a complete and utter loser in life. I don't have a job, have never had a girlfriend or even been on a date. I'm so pissed off with how everything is progressing. I feel useless, hopeless and helpless to change my circumstances. It's like I'm a mouse struggling to have that tiny, bit of cheese. I have to claw and scrap for every shred of happiness. I'm arguing with my parents recently and I'm just so over life. I have no one to talk to and feel so alone in this world. It would be better if I wasn't here anymore. Recently my mum and I have had arguments with my brothers and their partners and most of them have cut off contact with us. I don't believe life gets any better and if this is as good as it gets then I don't know what to do. My life is going nowhere, in fact it's like I'm constantly stuck in reverse. I've got uni online to look forward to in a few months and enjoy reading and writing. I can't exercise due to muscle problems. I could potentially have an autoimmune disease called myositis which can affect the muscles and organs but I'm not sure yet. I have recently stopped my meds as I went from 91.8 kilos to 109 kilos and am trying to lose weight. If I have this autoimmune disease then I would have to go on steroids which you guessed it, cause weight gain. I can't catch a break with anything, again I'm just so frustrated with everything. I'll be 29 in a few months and haven't lived up to my potential. I feel like a failure as a man and as a person. I never expected this back when I was a teenager. I've let myself down and everyone else around me. Also, I spend way too much money on claw machines as I'm addicted to them. I like winning from them as it's one of the few things I can do well. But when I lose I get frustrated. I don't have much of a life and honestly no one except for my parents would miss me if I'm gone. Sorry if this rant has gone on for too long. I needed to get this off my chest as there's no one I can confide in about any of this. Just over everything really. Also I know it's joy a smart idea to stop my meds but I want to lose weight and the psychiatrist who prescribed the tablets said "these have the least weight gain." This is a complete and utter lie as I've gained over 16 kilos since September when I first saw him. That's about it, thanks for reading.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Stressed Guy,
 
Thank you for reaching out tonight, we appreciate you sharing about your thoughts and feelings; it sounds like you are in a low place right now.  We wanted to let you know that we have reached out to you privately to check in with you and see if we can offer any additional support.
 
Sometimes life can feel like its over before it even started, or that we are not getting any reprieve from the never-ending demands of daily life. It is in moments like these, we like to offer a friendly ear to listen to these troubles and discuss any options or assistance that may be appropriate.

In addition to the forums, we invite you to call or chat to one of our trained mental health professionals; it’s completely confidential and available 24/7.  Please contact Beyond Blue either via phone 1300 22 4636 or web chat, just click here.  If you are in need of immediate support, please click here; you may also wish to contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
 
We’re sure to hear from some of our lovely community members here on your thread soon.  As you already know they are a really amazing community, and will have understanding, advice and kind words for you.  Thanks again for sharing. It’s a powerful and brave first step towards feeling better. 

Warm Regards,
 
Sophie M
 

[Banksy92]

Hello Stressed Guy,

It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now in many aspects of your life... your struggles with physical health, your family relationships... It's understandable you are feeling down. 

Please know that even when times like this feel endless and we don't see a way out, there always is a light at the end of the tunnel. I really encourage you to keep working with your health care professionals to work towards understanding what's going on with your body and how to manage the symptoms.

If you're comfortable sharing, are you able to walk with your muscle condition? If so, maybe you could go for walks as a form of gentle exercise. The other added benefit is this can be really helpful for your mental health and it may help boost your mood and help to regulate stress. I walked for 30 minutes each day when I acquired a chronic pain condition, became severely depressed and was unable to work. It was a helpful coping strategy for me. Sometimes small goals like this really make a difference to get through tough times.

Let us know how you are going when you can.

[james1]

Hello Stressed Guy,

I'm sorry to hear how things are going for you right now. I think we've spoken in the past a year or so ago, and I understand it's been tough for quite a while now. That must be so frustrating and draining.

You mentioned that this was a bit of a rant and you needed to get it off your chest, and this really is the perfect place for that. We're a non-judgemental community and I think all of us have had that exact same need, multiple times in our lives. If you'd like to chat any more, we're here for you.

James