is this the right place?

[youngnneedhelp]

hi,

my name is matt and im not sure if this is the right place for what i need help for, ive read some other stories and mine dosnt seem as important but i thought id give it a shot.

3 months ago my 3 year realationship with i still know "the one" ended and ive been finding it hard to move on, in the end it came down to that we never faught, not once. if i did anything that pissed her off she bottled it up and said nothing but thats not to say it was all her fault, i was so ignarent to the fact that there were things that needed to addressed but i just played along, so its just as much my fault as it is hers.

we now live on opposites side of the couuntry (she moved back home) and the only way we communicate is txt and some times phone calls. weve been talking about were things went wrong and what we could have done to prevent them, and the more we talk the more i realise that we could still be together.

with out her i cant be myself, i feel lost, disconected, like im some one else.

my question is, is it foolish of me to believe in a love so great and powerful that we'll be together again, or am i holding on to a false hope? i  know in my heart that if we were to give it another try, we would both do things different and we would last the distance. its just so hard that i cant show her how i feel and how ive become the man she needs and deserves, but due to geography it near impossible.

what do i do?

move on or beleive that the powerful love we once had can be once again?

[vip]

hi young need help thats ok to come this forum and ask for help nothing wrong with that very brave actually. Just discuss with her if you can give your relationship another go and see what she thinks. No hurt in trying that because i dont want you to live with regret like i do here. If it still doesnt work then it might be time to move on. I know thats very hard also open up the communication lines with her thoroughly and see where she stands and how she feels. Hope this helps good luck.

[The_Real_David_Charles]

Dear young,

If it was a "false hope" there would be no communication by text or phone.  Not fixing things is probably only something you can tell in hindsight (especially when you miss someone).   I remember one girlfriend in Washington DC whilst I was in London.   This was before the internet so we used to write and treasure each letter, re-read it, maybe store it in a box under the bed, whatever.    My point is that it was nice to keep the whole thing going despite the distance.

So even if the flame doesn't totally re-ignite you will have a great sounding board and friend if you both value communication.   3 years relationship is longer than most marriages.  Maybe you needed the separation to realise you wanted to be together.  Life is strange like that.  Maybe your disconnect can be serviced ?

Adios, David.

[geoff]

dear Matt, well having a relationship for 3 years and then splitting up can be soul wrenching, but she must have moved away for a particular reason, otherwise you would still be together.

To now being 'pen pals' is rather difficult, because you don't have the physical touch from each other, nor the look of their eyes hooked onto yours, and asking yourself 'what if', doesn't satisfy your urge to be together again, it will only frustrate you.

You could try talking on skype, but this will only wish for you to be with her, but I don't believe that this will happen, as she will find someone else, and the texts will slowly become shorter, as you both will move away, as you form another relationship, sorry mate. Geoff.