Ok just realised replies don't appear straight away as I just joined forums for my own reasons 15mins ago, I just wanted to reply quickly as I know I would be sitting there hitting "refresh" for a reply...
so I now just want to say 😉
being a male with no kids, my opinion is post natal depression is as common as doing a wee. Hear me out, the fact is weeing is so common it's expected and you don't need to tell people you are feeling like a wee.
How is someone having a baby and not having a clue what to do not normal? It's just if u admit it, it shows weakness and humanity don't think that's normal.
Well im sorry but I'm a male that knows it is. Common sense isn't that common.
I bet everything I own (which isn't much but lol) if u ask any mother, they had bad thoughts about their new born baby, most mothers with experience will admit it after child is older. The thing is by then, they know more and better about raising children and now it's funny, but at the time they were just as stressed and depressed. How can you not be depressed? You are now responsible of another life, which you created, instead of what you have been use to for your whole life, all that has mattered is you, sometimes the boyfriend /husband if he annoys you enough, but even then he can survive without you and doesn't stop you sleeping or going out.
Im sorry to rant, but postnatal depression is so common and I think the difference from bad to good postnatal depression is asking questions, so to me you are already a legend and I wish you the best.
You will be like 99.9999% of mothers and want to harm your kids at times till they move out of home. ITS NORMAL.
The only thing is after a few years when you know what you are doing you can joke about harming your kids instead of thinking it's a bad thought.
May I add, if the in laws are making you feel bad about anything about motherhood, tell them to go put there head under a rock. All that matter is your kid now and they should be behind you no matter how you decide to raise your child. If they don't like it, stiff.
im sure you will be a great mum and times will be tough and you will want to harm your child at times, it's called motherhood.
All the best 🙂
