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I used to be happy

sadbuthappy
Community Member

ok so when i was little i was ur typical 'smart, shy kid.' everyone knew me based on my results on tests and exams. that was probably the only reason they were so nice to me, cause i was so shy i couldnt even speak. then a few years later, i met this guy. he opened my eyes to the world, and made me realise that i should come out of my shell. so i did. he made me laugh so hard i cried, and around him i felt safe and happy. the world seemed so much brighter when he was in it. i became one of the 'popular crew' and everything in life felt like it was picking up. that year was grad year, so the next year, everyone was going off on their separate paths in life. i was separated from all my friends. it was weird, cause one minute i could be happy, and laugh like i used to, but the next? i remembered those times where i was truly happy, and everything else seemed like a waste. i think its cause my friends became my family, in a way. not by blood, but by love. i loved every one of them, and i was torn away from them. they were kind of the only family i've ever known, because my blood family puts up all of these expectations that i cant reach anymore. the pressure is getting to me now. it was probably the same before, but back then i had my friends to cheer me up when things got tough. now i have no one. i think im depressed, but i havent told anyone yet. i've left clues for people. i even told someone i was sad all the time, but they didnt pick up on it. what hurts the most is that no one even notices that something is wrong. they just go on, thinking their lives are tough, and im here, sad and depressed.

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi, welcome

Yes, I had that feeling leaving school (1973!) And the airforce (1976), the prison service (1980).

Then having 4 long term relationships over 7 year each long...their families...and two of those ladies I was a step dad...yep lost them also.

so clearly tjis feeling of being left alone is indeed part of life. Its still hard though. But it also means that we need to accept that this is how life is. We can do some proactive things to help. We can make new friends and we can look up our old ones, you might find some old friends meet up regularly.

As for others not helping when you're sad. Please read this. Use google

Topic: they just wont understand why?- beyondblue

Also express your sadness to a GP.

Tony WK

MissBenthos
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi Sadbuthappy,

A separation like this is like a grief and grief is tough, I can understand why you're feeling so down.

Are you able to keep in touch with your friends? Or perhaps join a club/group to do with one of your interests to make new friends?

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hello sadbuthappy, it is disappointing when school finishes and we always say to our friends 'we must keep up, I'll give you a ring', unfortunately this fades away so we lose touch with them, maybe because our interests change and we tend to go another direction, perhaps moving interstate or getting a job where we meet new people who become our friends.
Firstly I hope you are still checking your thread because people comment at later stages when it comes back into circulation.
Before I continue, maybe you can tell us if you're still checking. Geoff.