i’m lost

[Guest_63674208]

i have a horrible relationship with food, i overeat and genuinely can’t help myself and eat until i feel sick. my sleep schedule is horrible, i had something very bad happen to me a bit over a year ago regarding consent, i’m sad every single day and have self harmed previously but haven’t in a long time but it’s hard to ignore the temptation. i’m so demotivated and i don’t know what to do anymore i can’t keep my feelings bottled up anymore. i went through a really bad breakup with who i thought was the love of my life and still haven’t completely gotten over that. i just need someone to talk to

[Hayden]

Hi there. I’m sorry to read that you’re experiencing a lot of issues in life. Thank you for opening up and sharing. No judgement or criticism, just healing and support. GP access is always recommended as first steps, as it can open doors to many more supports. Contacting a helpline is also beneficial, just like Beyond Blue. I would like to know if you have a support network in your life, such as family or friends?

[Psychdiaries2]

Hello,

I’m so sorry to hear about the difficult time you’re going through. Thank you for sharing. I’ve struggled a lot with sleep in the past and something that helps me is to turn off my phone early and also turn off bright lights in my room to start to wind down before bed. This is part of getting into the rhythm of a good sleep routine. Also, try to set alarms so you wake up earlier and hopefully you’ll be tired at an appropriate time later in the hopes of fixing your sleep schedule. 

It would be of help to open up to someone you trust to let them know what you’re dealing with. I hope you feel comfortable sharing with them. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a professional also. 

Try to take things slowly each day, and maybe you can do some things for yourself to make yourself feel good like going for a walk, listening to music, etc. I love to journal about my feelings as it helps me to let them out on paper and is quite relieving. Maybe you could try that if you like. 

Sending love your way. Take care 🥰

[Daydreamer70]

Hi there, 

Im so sorry to hear you are going through this. I used to struggle a lot with binge eating/restricting and I honestly dont think ive even fully understood myself the toll it took on my mind and body. Binges generally come from an emotional place, where eating either distracts, soothes or numbs you from intense feelings. I used to binge when i was sad, anxious or just wanted relief from my thoughts. It was a really difficult period and i honestly thought i would never get out of it. I also struggle with sleep now particuarlly when i have a lot on my mind. You mentioned something happening to you regarding consent and can only imagine how much sadness and difficult feeling arose from this. The same with the breakup. I think its really brave of you to be writing on this forum. You are taking really great steps to helping yourself. I think it could also be helpful for you to speak with someone in person about what you are experiencing. I saw a counsellor a while ago and they just helped me work through some of my thinking and make things feel more manageable. Be kind to yourself with this process and write back if/when you feel like you might need some support. 

[sbella02]

Hey there,

Thank you so much for posting here, welcome to the forums. I'm so sorry to hear that you've been going through this, from your relationship with food and sleep to the awful situations you've been in, that pain must be so difficult to carry. I hope it's felt somewhat better to release some of it here in this post. 

Have you considered having a chat to a GP about getting a mental health care plan at all, or have you ever seen a mental health professional? Particularly somebody who specialises in helping people who struggle with eating may be well suited to you. They can also help you to process some of that trauma and pain that you're carrying.

Do you have friends, family, or loved ones who you would feel comfortable confiding in about how you're feeling? It may help ease some of that burden to chat to others in your life who may also have a lot more insight into you, your personality, and your experiences. That social support can be really meaningful. 

For those moments when you're feeling like harming yourself, Lifeline can really help to ease some of that emotional burden, and you can reach them on 13 11 14. We also offer a 24/7 chat function on our Beyond Blue homepage. 

We're also here to listen if you're open to sharing more of your story. No pressure at all. We're here if you need us.

All the best, SB