I haven't been able to see my boyfriend for 2 years and life feels meaningless.

Ciara1 · ‎05-06-2021

Since COVID-19 International border close last year in March, I have not been able to meet my boyfriend who lives overseas. We are planning to get married however there is no hope at the end of tunnel. I live in Victoria and lockdowns occur every now and then. I have my family, friends around me however the one person who means the world to me, I am not able to see, touch, feel. It is absently torture…an agonising pain which seems to burn every trace of happiness. My life is passing by and my dreams of having a family has no certainty. I miss him dearly. I wish for him daily. My life feels so numb, an endless loop of meaningless days. I wish I could see him. I wish I could just look at him face to face. Its suffocating to live like this.

thetamind · ‎05-06-2021

Hi Ciara, thanks for sharing this. Unfortunately, pandemic has shattered many lives and dreams. The most painful part is not having sense of control over one’s plan, life and situations and its just adds up to our emotional pain. I’m going through similar situations as well. You had plan for marriage and starting family and i can understand how hard it must have been especially with border closures and frequency of snap lockdown. It just increases anxiety, what if it extends beyond this and that... its unfortunate and sad and feels so hopeless not being able to do anything about this but most important of all you two are still together, love have been stronger than ever and certainly that day will arrive when you’ll be anxiously waiting his arrival in Sydney airport. And i wish nothing but best for you. Before i end my sentence here, all i want to say is have faith and it would be worthwhile, its just a matter of time.

jtjt_4862 · ‎05-06-2021

Hi Ciara1,

It really sucks that Covid-19 has ruined a lot of your future plans, and preventing you from being physically beside your partner.

Do the both of you do video calls? Perhaps there are some fun activities that the two of you can do digitally while you wait for this Covid-19 wave to subside. You could do like, a virtual tour of your surroundings and other parts of Australia for your partner to look forward to when the travel restrictions have been lifted. If not digitally, you could send snail mail letters to each other, or even exchange personal belongings (it can be a piece of clothing, or a souvenir from Australia). That way, you get to have a small physical object that belongs to your partner, and will help make you feel his physical presence.

Jt

Ciara1 · ‎05-06-2021

Dear thetamind and Jt,

Thank you for your lovely message. Your words are reassuring and bring warmth in this never-ending cold.

I feel for you thetamind and hope that you are able to see your partner soon. I am trying to stay optimistic too and believe that this will be over very soon. Not having a exact date or control over the situation, definitely still feels suffocating. I hope this will be over very soon and we can all be beside our loved ones. I guess I wanted to share how much it hurts to be away from someone you love. Life is so short and then to be pushed away from your loved ones feels frustrating, unfair, cruel and inhumane. I do want to hope, I really do.

My love for my partner has grown over this period which is why it makes even more difficult. I guess we have all realised the importance of love and especially people due to COVID-19. Life is uncertain. I am trying to endure through these times by being creative on how I keep in touch with my boyfriend. It is a struggle sometimes but it is definitely worth it.

Thank you again for your message.

Ciara.

jtjt_4862 · ‎05-06-2021

Hi Ciara,

Thank you too for sharing your message as well. I'm sure the two of you will be able to get through this together. Life is certainly filled with uncertainties. I sometimes wonder if tomorrow, there would be news on the television about this super medicine that will end the Covid-19 Pandemic all at once. But until that day comes, we'll do our best to make the most out of our present moment with what we have.

I wish the best for the both of you thetamind and Ciara, it will all be over soon. Your courage and persistence through these hard times with your partner will definitely be worth it.

Jt