I get jealous of people as some have great lives and I wish I had their luck

[Daniel4Louise16]

I've been depressed lately and it's just frustrating. I've had illness and it's taken me 2yrs and it's taking so slow. I had to give up my job and now I need to find another job but I'm not sure what to do. With my age I'm afraid that I'm to old for somebody to take me on. I'm just upset as most of my so called friends don't call me or chat to me. Which is sad but what can I do. I think I let my partner down my family don't chat to me or ask how I'm doing which at time hurts. I'm thinking of moving to another city but with no employment or $$$$$ it's hard and frustrating. I get jealous of people as some have great life's and I wish I had there luck. 

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Daniel4Louise16,

Welcome to BeyondBlue and thanks for reaching out to us.

Sorry to hear that you have had to give up your job; what sort of work are you looking for?  I know that it can be hard with age and the economy but that doesn't mean you are out of options.  

I have experience in HR and it is unlawful for people to discriminate your application because of your age.  Often people worried about their age can actually bring to the workforce a lot more than younger applicants, like experience; whether it's customer service or knowledge of the job, or how things change over the years with technology.  

Depending on the work that you are wanting to go back into; maybe you could try for a course? There are a huge number of courses available - and if your location prevents you then it might be about trying for a course online or doing a workshop.  Do you have a Career/Job centre in your area?  They can be quite useful for finding resources and updating your Resume or preparing for jobs.

Finally - if you are struggling with money you could try Centrelink. They do have both short-term and long-term payments as well as emergency payments that are there to assist you.

I hope this helps some - if you want to connect with your family maybe try and talk to them; give them a call and see how they are doing.  Often peoples lives can look very shiny from the outside but it may not always be that way.  You can change your luck around too.

Take care,

P.S. If there's something in particular that we can help you with feel free to mention - I'm running out of space to type so feel free to let me know if my response is not what you're after! 🙂 

[Neil_1]

Hi there Daniel

I hope that you’re going ok … and just wanted to say that Romantic Thi3f’s response to you was a very good one.  Giving you lots of different suggestions and thoughts, so just wanted to back that up.

I also think that the move to another city could have positives and negatives for you, which you no doubt have already thought of.  The logistics of the move, the cost involved, travel, relocation and finding a new place to live, just to name a few to start of with.

As opposed to being in a totally different environment, with possible or different job options available.

Though as you mentioned you have a partner, then that would be something that you’d be definitely needing to talk with your partner about;  if it was just you, then the move option would be far less complicated, but if others are involved, then that makes it a whole new ball game.

The thing with depression is you’ve kind of nailed it on the head in your second sentence – that it’s a very slow process;  unfortunately there are no quick fixes (if only).

Would love to hear back from you.

Kind regards

Neil