I feel like mold

[Harkness]

I'm 33, balding, fat, live with my parents, no real career prospects after failing to become a full time actor, and I don't feel any motivation anymore.

The last 3 and first things wouldn't matter so much to me because I can change them, but my hair was a massive source of my confidence. I have a very wide face even when slim (think Bert Newton) and even with a Vegeta-worthy hairline it's very clear I'll be Mr Moonface within 2 years.

I've been anxious about my hairline since I was 20, but now it's at the point where hair supplements and patience don't seem to be working out for me anymore.

I know what it's like for my bald friends, fit guys who are the life of the party but struggle to date unlike less socially confident and fit friends who have full heads of hair and girls clawing after them. It's not the confidence. It's not the body.

In addition, I'd like to add this for the well meaning individuals who want to bolster my confidence; I was socially awkward, I got confident, got quite a few beautiful girls. Back when I had hair and confidence. Both are lacking now, and false bravado won't cut it with a chrome dome. No comment sections are full of women thirsting for Jason statham or dwayne johnson, plenty are desperate for Jason mamoa or timothy chalamet.

I've spent the last 13 years paying attention to what works for bald men and what doesn't. In my experience, it seems to be money, status, model looks in the case of Statham (former male model) and top tier physique (6'2 and look at the guy) for Dwayne Johnson. In any case I don't think "grind until you're literally in the top 0.01% of men" is going to be actionable advice for me.

I'm curious. Does anyone have anything outside of "get a hobby" (several) or "just wait until you find the right one"? I'm not going for the way out, I'm blessed with great friends and fantastic family and faith, but I just want to know if there is any reason I should put out 10x the effort of any guy with a full crop to hopefully find a woman who's not just settling for who's left at the game of musical chairs.  Had too many close friends and family lose out by trying to play romantic when they weren't "the one".

Again, the fat, the broke, the whatever else, all fixable, I know that. But I also know honesty, and I've seen honesty in every woman's face that displayed disgust at the bald/balding guy and the lack thereof of the right guy with a mane.