Dear the one,
Try googling "social anxiety" as you seem to have great pressure in social situations and then give yourself a hard time.
If you are a monster then are you a chocolate cake monster, a shaving cream monster, a T-Rex monster or a "waiting for the right girl" monster ? From what I remember you are a young dude. There is every opportunity to relate to girls and be happy with the right one. If you think long term rather than short term you might be able to get past this traumatic time.
I have no idea how you can practise patience but sometimes you have to wait for the right connection. Both my brother in laws married at 40 having spent eternity waiting for the right partner. Maybe if they had both moved out of their mum's house in their 20's they would have been successful earlier. But, both married with 2 kids and live the Australian Dream.
A lot of the Bachelor type tv reality shows give the wrong impression. And I've gotta wonder - if a girl really thinks being in a comp is a good way of getting the guy then maybe they're not as socially confident either. It's way over marketed. I want to turn the tv off as soon as I see those shows. You could, in all seriousness, meet up and hook up with a delightful person whilst just waiting for a bus.
A friend of mine even got a date waiting at the lights and crossing the road with some refreshing lady. I mean, the possibilities outweigh the colourful tv relationship shows. It's just not a normal situation. Plus often the final couple don't last very long in real life. I wonder why ?
If you really don't feel happy you gotta break the circuit somehow. Forget the justifications of shower/teeth/confidence/deodorant/etc. Your personality and character are far more important than if you wear Rexona Men (Extreme). There's no time limit on love. Google Charlie Chaplin - he was married in his 70's with a kid. Look at Stephen Hawkings (world class scientist/wheelchair bound) - he married his nurse. Look at Hugh Heffner - no bad example. That's not normal to be living with 3 chicks in their 20's while you are an old codger.
There's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with you. You just haven't met the right girl yet. Your other threads were very good - lots of observation. Keep it up and then you might have to keep it up. Lol.
Adios, David.
PS In Italy they are having less kids so will not sustain their population. This is more to do with selfishness and commerce. But it's very interesting that a land of love and sexy boys/girls should now be under parity when it comes to families. My point is - most Italians are well dressed/deodoranted/teeth brushed/ironed state of the art fashion/romantic/energetic & earthy. Sorry to generalise a whole country.
